Let’s be real: toxic relationships? Been there, done that, got the emotional scars. Whether it was a walking red flag disguised as “the one” or just someone who made your life feel like a never-ending soap opera, you’re here because you’re DONE. You want peace, healing, and that glow-up your soul deserves.
And sis, you deserve it.
So grab your chai, get comfy, and let’s talk about how to reclaim your peace, Islam-style. No fluff, no nonsense, just real, actionable steps to get your heart back where it belongs.
1. Cut. Them. Off.
Yes, we’re starting strong. Delete the number, block on social, and stop checking their Instagram stories (because, yes, they know you’re watching). Allah tells us: “And do not incline towards those who do wrong, lest the Fire should touch you.” (Quran 11:113)
Toxicity spreads like a virus, and you’re not a host anymore. Protect your peace at all costs!
2. Let the Drama Detox Begin
You can’t heal in the same environment that hurt you. That means distancing yourself from mutual enablers, gossip circles, and anything that keeps you tied to the past. The Prophet (ﷺ) said: “A person follows the religion of his close friend; so be careful whom you befriend.” (Tirmidhi)
Choose peace over pettiness. Unfollow, mute, disappear if you need to.
3. Istighfar & Dua: Your Healing Toolkit
Your heart needs spiritual CPR. Toxic relationships leave stains on the soul, and nothing cleanses better than sincere istighfar (seeking forgiveness) and dua (supplication).
Dua idea: “Ya Allah, remove what is not meant for me and replace it with what brings me closer to You.”
That’s it. Simple, effective, and life-changing.
4. Glow Up from the Inside Out
Self-care isn’t just face masks and fancy candles (although, yes, go ahead and do that too). True glow-ups start with your soul.
Pray on time. Read Quran like it’s your favorite book. Hydrate your soul with dhikr (remembrance of Allah). When you’re spiritually strong, no toxic ex can shake your peace.
5. Journal Your Way to Clarity
Thoughts racing? Can’t stop replaying the past? Grab a journal. Write it all out. It’s therapeutic, trust me. And if you need a guided one, check out The Soul Cleanse Journal, a faith-based journaling tool to help you process emotions in a halaal way. No more oversharing on TikTok, just you, your thoughts, and healing.
6. Redefine Your Worth (Because, Hello, Queen!)
A toxic relationship can make you forget who you are. Let me remind you: you are a walking ayah (sign) of Allah’s greatness. The Prophet (ﷺ) said: “Indeed, Allah is beautiful, and He loves beauty.” (Muslim)
Your worth is not in their validation. It’s in your relationship with Allah, your character, and the way you love yourself. Repeat after me: “I am enough, as I am, right now.”
7. Halal Hustle > Heartbreak
Sis, if you have time to overthink, you have time to build. Invest in yourself. Take that class, start that business, learn a new skill. The best revenge is success (and inner peace).
And no, you don’t need to post about it for your ex to see. This glow-up is for you.
8. Guard Your Heart Like It’s Gold (Because It Is)
Not everyone deserves access to you. Before you entertain anyone new, ask yourself: Does this bring me closer to Allah? If the answer is no, you already know what to do.
The Prophet (ﷺ) said: “The heart is between the fingers of the Most Merciful, and He turns it as He wills.” (Muslim)
Make dua for guidance before giving your heart away again. Ya Allah, protect me from anyone who is not good for me, Ameen.
9. Gratitude Over Grief
Look, I get it. The heartbreak was real. But shift your focus: what did this experience teach you? How did it bring you closer to Allah? Gratitude rewires your mindset.
Allah promises: “If you are grateful, I will surely increase [My favor] for you.” (Quran 14:7)
So, be grateful that you dodged a bullet. Future you will thank you.
10. Trust Allah’s Timing (Seriously, Just Chill)
The best love story is already written for you, and guess what? It won’t be toxic. When the time is right, the right one will come, with ease. Until then, focus on your peace. Allah never takes without giving better.
The Prophet (ﷺ) said: “Whoever leaves something for the sake of Allah, He will replace it with something better.” (Ahmad)
Your story isn’t over, sis. It’s just beginning.
Final Thought: What’s Your Next Step?
Healing starts with action. Which of these steps will you start today? And if you’re ready to level up your healing journey, check out The Soul Cleanse Journal, a faith-based guided journal that helps you process emotions, gain clarity, and grow closer to Allah. Because healing is worship, and you deserve peace.
Drop a comment below: What’s the biggest lesson you learned from your toxic past? Let’s heal together!