Ladies, let’s be real, marriage isn’t always rose petals and heart emojis. Sometimes, it’s dirty dishes, ignored texts, and a husband who thinks “helping” means watching you struggle while he scrolls Instagram. But before you start dramatically packing your bags (or dreaming of a halal “soft launch” exit), let’s tap into something truly transformative: the Sunnah.
Islam gives us a beautiful blueprint for relationships, but sometimes, we need a little nudge (or a reality check) to implement it. So, if your marriage is feeling more “roommate vibes” than “soulmate goals,” here are 10 powerful Sunnah-backed strategies to bring the barakah back.
1. Smile (Even If You Want to Strangle Him)
Let’s start simple: The Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) said, “Your smile to your brother is a charity.” (Tirmidhi) And if you can smile at your brother, surely you can at least attempt one for your husband, right?
A genuine smile, even when you’re internally composing a passive-aggressive text, can shift the energy in your marriage. It’s a micro-move with macro-impact.
2. Lower Your Expectations (Yes, Really)
Before you gasp, hear me out. The Prophet’s (ﷺ) marriage to Aisha (RA) wasn’t built on grand romantic gestures but on patience, playfulness, and understanding. Expecting your husband to be your best friend, therapist, personal chef, and handyman all at once? Sis, that’s a Disney fantasy.
Lower the unrealistic expectations and appreciate the small efforts. It’s Sunnah to be grateful, and gratitude attracts more barakah.
3. Master the Art of Silence
Not every battle is worth fighting. The Prophet (ﷺ) said, “Whoever remains silent has been saved.” (Tirmidhi) Sometimes, the most powerful response is no response, especially when you’re on the verge of a full-blown rant.
Silence isn’t losing; it’s strategic. Use it wisely.
4. Initiate Intimacy (Yes, Even If You’re Annoyed)
Let’s not act like this isn’t important. The Prophet (ﷺ) emphasized intimacy in marriage, and sometimes, that’s exactly what reignites the connection.
Try it. You might go from “Ugh, I can’t stand him” to “Why was I mad again?” real quick.
5. Say His Name with Love (Not “Oye, You!”)
The Prophet (ﷺ) called Aisha (RA) by sweet nicknames like “Humayrah.” When was the last time you addressed your husband with something softer than “Did you take out the trash yet?”
Words carry energy. Call him with love, and you might just soften his heart (and his ability to follow instructions).
6. Dua Over Drama
Instead of venting to your bestie about how he “never listens,” try raising your hands in dua. The Prophet (ﷺ) said, “Dua is the weapon of the believer.” (Tirmidhi)
Make dua for his guidance, your patience, and a love filled with sakinah (tranquility). The angels actually say Ameen when you pray for others, how’s that for divine backup?
7. Cook His Favorite Meal (Yes, Even If You Hate It)
The way to a man’s heart? Through food. It’s cliché because it’s true. Aisha (RA) lovingly served the Prophet (ﷺ), and he reciprocated that love in many ways.
Not a fan of slaving over the stove? Consider [insert product recommendation, like a halal meal delivery service or quick recipes book]. Saves time, makes him happy, and you still get Sunnah points, win-win.
8. Take a Break from Each Other (It’s Sunnah!)
Did you know the Prophet (ﷺ) would sometimes take time away for spiritual retreats? Sometimes, a little space makes the heart grow fonder.
Schedule a girls’ day out or a solo self-care evening. Give each other room to miss one another instead of constantly stepping on each other’s nerves.
9. Argue Like the Prophet (Spoiler: He Didn’t Hold Grudges)
The Prophet (ﷺ) never dragged an argument for days. He resolved conflicts swiftly and never let ego lead.
Try this: If you’re upset, set a “grudge timer.” Give yourself a set time to feel your feelings, and once it’s up, move on. No silent treatment, no days of side-eye. Sunnah style.
10. Love for the Sake of Allah
At the end of the day, marriage is an act of worship. If you love him only for his personality (or beard length), you’ll get frustrated. But if you love him for the sake of Allah, you’ll be patient, kind, and forgiving.
Shift your mindset. Make your marriage an ibadah (act of worship), and watch the blessings pour in.
The Takeaway
Marriage is work, but the Prophet’s (ﷺ) Sunnah gives us the perfect relationship guide.
Now, tell me, which one of these Sunnah tips are you going to try first? Or do you have a secret tip that saved your marriage? Drop it in the comments below, I promise we won’t judge.