Divorce? It feels like getting hit by a truck, emotionally, mentally, and sometimes even physically (hello, stress breakouts). Maybe your aunties are already whispering, “She’s damaged goods now,” or your phone is lighting up with fake sympathy texts. But here’s the deal: You are NOT broken, you are NOT a failure, and you most definitely do NOT need to settle for mediocrity. Allah (SWT) has a plan for you, and it’s way better than crying over a man who didn’t deserve you in the first place. So, grab your chai, wrap yourself in that cozy blanket, and let’s talk about how to heal, Islamically and fabulously.
1. Cry It Out… But Make It Sunnah
You’re allowed to feel your feelings. Even Prophet Yaqub (AS) cried for years over losing Yusuf (AS). Just don’t let the crying sessions turn into a Netflix spiral where you start romanticizing toxic love stories. Instead, channel those tears into heartfelt dua. Allah says: “Indeed, with hardship comes ease” (Qur’an 94:6). Your heartbreak has an expiry date. Promise.
2. Level Up Your Duas
This is NOT the time for generic duas like, “Ya Allah, make it better.” Be specific! Ask for healing, peace, strength, and a glow-up that leaves people speechless. (Yes, dua can be that powerful.) Bonus: Make dua for your ex too. It’s hard, but the spiritual flex is unmatched.
3. Unfollow, Mute, Block. Do It Now.
Don’t stalk his Instagram stories and then wonder why you’re still hurting. The Prophet (SAW) said, “Part of the perfection of one’s Islam is his leaving that which does not concern him” (Tirmidhi). Sis, his new gym selfies? They do not concern you. Move on.
4. Get Your Worship on Point
Divorce can shake your self-worth, but remember, you are first and foremost a servant of Allah. Your value does NOT depend on a ring. Fix your salah. Fast extra days. Read more Qur’an. The closer you get to Allah, the faster He will mend your heart.
5. Therapy, But Make It Halal
Talking to a therapist doesn’t mean you’re weak. Even the Prophet (SAW) had trusted companions he confided in. Find a therapist who respects your Islamic values and helps you process everything in a healthy way. (Hint: If you need a faith-based therapist, check out [insert recommended service here].)
6. Surround Yourself with Queens
Your girl squad matters. Avoid the “men are trash” committee and instead, sit with women who uplift you, remind you of your worth, and make you laugh till your stomach hurts. The Prophet (SAW) said, “A person is upon the religion of his close friend” (Abu Dawood). Choose wisely.
7. Stop Overthinking Your Marital Status
Married. Single. Divorced. These are just labels. Allah sees your character, not your relationship status. Don’t let culture dictate your worth. The best women in history, Khadijah (RA), Aasiyah (RA), Maryam (RA), had incredibly different marital stories, yet they were ALL honored by Allah.
8. Glow Up, But for YOU
Get that skincare routine in check. Hit the gym. Buy that abaya that makes you feel like a walking dua. This isn’t about proving anything to anyone, it’s about feeling GOOD in your own skin. Aishah (RA) took care of herself, and she was one of the most beloved to the Prophet (SAW). You deserve to feel radiant.
9. Channel Your Energy into Something Bigger
Learn a new skill. Start a business. Memorize a surah you’ve always wanted to. Divorce doesn’t mean your life is over, it means you have a fresh slate. The best revenge? Living a life so fulfilling that marriage becomes just an addition, not the mission.
10. Trust That Allah Has Someone (or Something) Better for You
If you knew what Allah had planned for you, you’d never lose sleep over what’s gone. Whether it’s a better spouse, a new purpose, or a deeper connection with your Creator, trust the process. Allah says, “It may be that you dislike a thing and Allah brings through it a great deal of good” (Qur’an 4:19).
Final Thoughts (And a Little Tough Love)
This pain? It’s temporary. But your relationship with Allah? That’s forever. Instead of obsessing over what you lost, focus on what you’re about to gain.
So, tell me, what’s the first step you’re going to take towards healing? Drop it in the comments below, or check out [insert recommended product/service] that could help you on your journey!