Sis, let’s be real. You’ve made dua. You’ve attended enough weddings to last a lifetime. Your aunties have exhausted their “I know a nice boy” contacts. Yet, here you are, still single, still waiting, still scrolling past engagement announcements like “MashaAllah, but also… why not me?”
Before you let impatience drive you to questionable late-night istikharas or impulsively downloading a certain halal-but-not-so-halal app ( we see you!), let’s talk about how to stay patient when you’re waiting for the right one, without losing your mind (or dignity).
1. Stop Comparing Your Life to Sister Fatima’s Perfect Instagram Nikah Post
We all know the one. The soft pink dress. The “Alhamdulillah, married my best friend” caption. The perfectly placed Quran on the mehendi tray.
Listen, social media is a highlight reel. Her “perfect” marriage won’t post about burnt samosas and in-law drama. Trust Allah’s timing instead of Instagram’s algorithm.
“And be patient, for indeed, Allah does not allow the reward of those who do good to be lost.” (Quran 11:115)
2. Make Dua Like You Mean It (And Not Just After Seeing a Cute Couple)
Allah wants you to ask Him. So, ask like you’re ordering at a five-star restaurant, be specific about what you want.
- Wrong: “Ya Allah, send me a husband.”
- Right: “Ya Allah, grant me a righteous spouse who will bring me closer to You, is emotionally intelligent, and smells nice.” (Come on, let’s be real, hygiene matters.)
3. Focus on Becoming “The One” Instead of Just Finding “The One”
A husband isn’t a magical solution to all your problems. If you’re expecting marriage to fix your bad habits, weak faith, or lack of patience, plot twist: it won’t.
Use this time to work on YOU, spiritually, emotionally, financially. Your future self will thank you.
4. Master the Art of Dodging Nosy Aunties
- Aunty: “Beta, when will we hear the good news?”
- You: “InshaAllah, when Allah wills. Now tell me, what’s the recipe for that amazing biryani you made last Eid?”
Redirect the convo. Works every time.
5. Invest in Your Hobbies (Because Staring at Your Phone Won’t Speed Up Qadr)
Find something that makes you happy outside of scrolling through rishta groups. Write, paint, learn a skill, whatever keeps you sane. (Bonus: Your future spouse will love that you have a life beyond just waiting for him.)
6. Strengthen Your Relationship With Allah (Before You Worry About A Relationship With A Man)
A man won’t fill the spiritual emptiness only Allah can. Pray on time. Read Quran. Build that connection first, and everything else will follow.
“And whoever relies upon Allah, then He is sufficient for him.” (Quran 65:3)
7. Surround Yourself With the Right People (No, That Doesn’t Mean Stalk the Masjid Brother’s Circle)
Your company affects your mindset. Surround yourself with uplifting friends who remind you of your worth, not ones who make you feel “expired” at 25.
8. Learn to Laugh at the Process (Because, Sis, Some Rishta Stories Are Wild)
If you don’t laugh, you’ll cry. Some of you have been through disastrous rishta meetings, awkward silences, weird questions, “Beta, do you know how to make round rotis?”
Instead of frustration, find humor. One day, it’ll all be a hilarious story to tell your kids.
9. Stop Settling Just Because You’re “Tired of Waiting”
A bad marriage is worse than waiting. Desperation makes you accept red flags like they’re roses. Stay firm on your standards, your patience will be rewarded.
“Indeed, with hardship comes ease.” (Quran 94:6)
10. Treat Yourself (Because Self-Care is Sunnah!)
Patience doesn’t mean suffering. Take care of yourself, buy that perfume, book that trip, upgrade your skincare game. Need a self-care boost? Check out this halal, non-toxic self-care kit for a little tawakkul-and-chill moment.
Final Thoughts: Your Timeline is Already Written
Your future spouse? Already written. Your wedding day? Already known by Allah. You don’t have to stress over a script already perfected by the Best of Planners.