Ladies, gather around! Let’s talk about something serious, but with a little bit of spice! Have you ever met a guy who was smoother than your favorite lip gloss but messier than your closet on a Monday morning? Yeah, that guy. The one who sends “good morning, beautiful” texts but can’t commit to a plan. The one who knows exactly how to keep you hoping, waiting, and overanalyzing.
It’s time to snap out of it, queen! Here’s why you should not let a man treat your heart like a fidget spinner.
1. Your Heart Is Not a Playground
Sis, the Quran is clear: “Do not approach fornication. Indeed, it is an abomination and an evil way.” (Surah Al-Isra 17:32). Now, while we’re not saying you’re out here sinning, emotional games can lead to haram heartbreak. Allah (SWT) has given you dignity, so why let someone treat your heart like a part-time job with zero benefits?
A man who truly fears Allah will value your heart, not toy with it. If he’s leading you on with no intentions of marriage, hit him with a “May Allah guide you” and block, sis.
2. He’s Wasting Your Dua Hours
Do you really want to waste your precious tahajjud prayers on a guy who leaves you on read but watches all your stories? Nah, sis. The Prophet (SAW) said, “Indeed, actions are judged by their intentions.” (Bukhari & Muslim).
If a man’s intentions aren’t marriage, why invest your heart, energy, and supplications on him? Your duas deserve a righteous spouse, not a walking red flag.
3. Emotional Stress = Bad Skin & Low Iman
Let’s get real, stress causes breakouts, under-eye bags, and worst of all, ghaflah (heedlessness). When your mind is consumed with “Why hasn’t he texted back?” you lose focus on your ibadah (worship).
Allah (SWT) says, “Verily, in the remembrance of Allah do hearts find rest.” (Surah Ar-Ra’d 13:28). If his presence is giving you anxiety instead of peace, he is not your qadr, sis. Hydrate, make wudu, and keep it moving.
4. A Real Man Will Respect Your Boundaries
The Prophet Muhammad (SAW) treated women with unmatched respect. He never entertained women just for fun, his relationships were built on honor and commitment.
If a man is “just seeing where things go,” best believe it’s nowhere good. Halal relationships are intentional. If he’s making excuses instead of making you his wife, sis, he’s just a time-waster in a thobe (or worse, gym shorts).
5. Your Future Husband Deserves a Whole Queen, Not a Broken One
Imagine you finally meet the one Allah has written for you, but you’re emotionally exhausted from men who never deserved you. Don’t let past disappointments make you lose trust in love. Protect your heart, because the right man will cherish it.
The Prophet (SAW) said, “The most complete of the believers in faith is the best of them in character, and the best of you are those who are best to their women.” (Tirmidhi). Your future husband should be a man of character, not confusion.
Bonus: Want to Glow While You Heal?
Heartbreak can be stressful, but self-care is sunnah! Treat yourself to some halal self-care products, like a nourishing face mask infused with sunnah ingredients (honey, black seed, or rose water). Because when you look good, you feel good, and there’s nothing more attractive than a confident, spiritually aligned Muslimah.
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Final Thoughts: Are You Ready to Choose Yourself?
Sis, you deserve better. If a man isn’t leading you closer to Allah, he’s leading you astray. Cut him off, raise your standards, and trust that Allah has something so much better written for you.