So, you fell for someone, huh? Maybe he had that perfect Sunnah beard, texted you ‘Good morning, sunshine’ with a halal twist, or just made you feel seen in a world that barely notices you. But now, for whatever reason (he’s not serious, your deen is suffering, or he just ghosted you like a bad WiFi signal), you know it’s time to let go.
And yet, you can’t. Your heart is clinging like a toddler to their mom’s abaya. You know it’s for the sake of Allah, but it still stings like stepping on a Lego barefoot.
Well, sit tight, sis, because I’m about to drop some truth bombs. Here are five powerful ways to let go of someone you love, for the sake of Allah, and actually survive.
1. Accept That Not Everyone You Love is Meant for You
Harsh? Maybe. But necessary? Absolutely.
Sometimes, we meet people who feel like the missing piece of our puzzle, only to realize they belong in a completely different box. The Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) said:
“If something is meant to reach you, it will never miss you, and if it is not meant to reach you, it will never come to you.” (Ahmad 27879)
Allah doesn’t close a door unless He’s guiding you to a better one. So instead of asking “Why is this happening?” ask “What is Allah teaching me?” Trust me, once you switch the narrative, the pain hits differently.
2. Detox Your Heart Like It’s Ramadan Prep
You wouldn’t chug soda and devour a pizza right before Taraweeh, so why keep feeding your heart junk when it needs a full cleanse? Block him, unfollow him, and delete those “Maybe one day” screenshots. You cannot heal in the same environment that made you sick.
Instead, flood your soul with dhikr, Qur’an, and loads of istighfar. Allah says:
“Verily, in the remembrance of Allah do hearts find rest.” (Qur’an 13:28)
Make your heart so full of Allah that there’s no room left for anyone who isn’t meant for you.
3. Replace Your ‘What Ifs’ with ‘Alhamdulillah’
What if he changes? What if he was ‘the one’? What if I never find someone better? Sis, stop playing mental gymnastics. Allah’s Qadr is never ‘almost right’, it’s perfect.
If Allah removed him, He is protecting you. Maybe from heartbreak, maybe from sin, maybe from a future that would have wrecked you. And if you don’t believe me now, just wait, your future self will thank you when you’re sipping chai in a halal relationship that actually brings you peace.
Say Alhamdulillah now for what you’ll understand later.
4. Channel Your Energy into a Glow-Up (Spiritual + Real-Life Edition)
Crying over a man? That’s cute. But have you ever leveled up so hard that the next time he sees you (not that you care), he realizes he lost gold while chasing glitter?
Instead of spiraling, focus on becoming the best version of yourself, for you and for the sake of Allah. Get deeper into your deen, learn new skills, start a passion project, hit the gym, take care of your skin, and invest in your mindset. Your glow-up should be so real that your past looks at you like a distant memory.
Need some extra motivation? Check out this amazing guided Islamic journal that helps you track your spiritual growth, gratitude, and duas. It’s like a therapist, life coach, and best friend all in one.
5. Make Dua Like You’re at the Ka’bah
Sis, your heart is breaking? Pour it out to the One who created it. There’s a reason tahajjud exists. There’s a reason Allah says:
“Call upon Me; I will respond to you.” (Qur’an 40:60)
Instead of texting him that “I just need closure” message (which, let’s be real, is just an excuse), make wudu, get on your prayer mat, and let it all out to Allah. Ask Him to remove the attachment from your heart. Ask Him to replace your pain with something better.
Because here’s the secret: When you let go for the sake of Allah, He replaces what you lost with something infinitely better.
Final Thoughts: You’re Stronger Than You Think
I know this hurts. I know it feels impossible. But I promise you, you will heal. You will look back on this moment and wonder why you ever doubted Allah’s plan.
So tell me, sis, which one of these steps are you starting today? Let’s talk in the comments, and if you need that extra boost, grab the Islamic journal I mentioned earlier. Your healing starts now.