Hey girl, let’s be real. We’ve all been there. You see him, Mr. Tall, Pious, and MashaAllah, and suddenly your mind’s like a Bollywood movie with the slow-mo, the wind, the music… You’re basically one ‘Ya Allah, why him?’ away from writing a whole diary dedicated to him. But here’s the thing: he’s either unavailable, not interested, or let’s face it, not good for your deen. So, how do you actually stop crushing on him? Here’s how, with some epic wisdom from Islam to guide you. Ready? Let’s dive in!
1. Acceptance: Acknowledge the Crush (But Don’t Feed It)
First things first, admit it. Yes, you like him. Maybe a little, maybe a lot. But instead of fighting it like it’s a Marvel villain, acknowledge it calmly. You’re human. Feelings happen. But guess what? Islam teaches us to guard our hearts. Allah says in the Quran:
“And those who restrain their anger and pardon people, Allah loves the doers of good.” (Quran 3:134)
If we can control anger, we can definitely control a harmless crush, right? It’s about self-discipline, girl. Acknowledge, but don’t obsess.
2. Seek Refuge in Allah (Because Who’s Got Your Back Better?)
Feeling overwhelmed by the feels? That’s normal. But there’s something better than just scrolling through his profile like a private investigator. Make du’a. Say:
“O Allah, I seek refuge in You from a heart that does not humble itself.”
And mean it. Because, honestly, sometimes we’re just stubbornly holding onto the crush thinking it’s the love story of the decade. Spoiler alert: It’s not.
3. Distract Yourself (With Ibadah and Fun Stuff!)
Nope, I’m not telling you to become a monk. But find something productive to do. Like learning something new, diving into Quranic studies, or helping your community. Even Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) said:
“Take advantage of five before five: your youth before your old age, your health before your illness, your wealth before your poverty, your free time before your preoccupation, and your life before your death.” (Al-Hakim)
And let’s be honest, the busier you are, the less time you have to daydream about him, right?
4. Limit Your Exposure (Goodbye, Stalker Mode!)
Stop stalking his social media profiles, his friends’ profiles, and his entire family tree. Islam teaches us to lower our gaze and guard our hearts. Allah says:
“Tell the believing women to lower their gaze and guard their private parts…” (Quran 24:31)
Imagine treating your heart like a pure garden. You wouldn’t want to fill it with weeds, right? So, control what you feed your mind.
5. Reflect on Your Purpose (Girl, You’ve Got Goals!)
Why are you here? To live and die obsessing over some guy you can’t have? Nah. You’ve got bigger dreams. Islam reminds us of our greater purpose: worshipping Allah and striving for Jannah.
“And I did not create the jinn and mankind except to worship Me.” (Quran 51:56)
Crushing on him isn’t getting you any closer to your goals. Time to refocus and glow up spiritually!
6. Put Your Trust in Allah’s Plan (The Real Love Story)
Sometimes, the hardest thing to do is to just… let go. Trusting that Allah has something better planned for you is the most freeing thing ever. Remind yourself of this hadith:
“Be mindful of Allah and He will take care of you. Be mindful of Allah and you will find Him in front of you.” (Tirmidhi)
If he’s meant for you, he’ll be yours in the halal-est way possible. If not, something far better is waiting for you, inshaAllah.
Final Thoughts
So, there you have it, six steps to kick that crush to the curb. It’s not about being emotionless. It’s about being in control of your emotions. Allah has given you the strength to do it, sis! The real question is: Are you ready to take charge of your heart?