Ladies, let’s be real for a second. If a man is giving you bare-minimum effort, responding to your texts like you’re a customer service bot, and treating your presence like an afterthought, we have a problem.
Islam holds you in high regard, so why are you settling for a half-hearted situationship when the Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) himself taught that women are precious, honored, and deserving of deep love and commitment?
Here are seven powerful Hadiths to remind you that you deserve a man who actually values you, because girl, you are not a consolation prize.
1. Love Should Be Expressed, Not Assumed
“When a man tells his wife that he loves her, it is never forgotten in her heart.”
(Sunan Ibn Majah 1977)
If the Prophet (ﷺ) encouraged men to express their love, then why are you dealing with someone whose idea of affection is a thumbs-up emoji? Sis, if he “assumes” you should just know he cares, he’s doing it wrong. Love is meant to be vocalized and demonstrated, not left to interpretation like an abstract painting.
2. You Are a Trust, Not an Afterthought
“The best of you are those who are best to their women.”
(Sunan al-Tirmidhi 1162)
This is literally the Prophet’s (ﷺ) standard for greatness. If he’s treating you like a backup plan or a free therapist instead of his queen, then he’s not among the best. And you? You weren’t created to be someone’s last-minute option.
3. You Deserve Someone Who Will Prioritize You
“A woman is married for four things: her wealth, her lineage, her beauty, and her religion. So marry the religious woman, or you may be ruined.”
(Sahih al-Bukhari 5090)
Translation: your worth isn’t just about external qualities. A real man values your character, your iman, and the way you make dua for him at night. If he’s only interested in your looks or how much you boost his ego, he’s missing the point, and you deserve better.
4. Settling for Less? That’s a No From Islam.
“A believer must not hate a believing woman. If he dislikes one of her characteristics, he will be pleased with another.”
(Sahih Muslim 1469a)
If he’s constantly criticizing you, making you feel small, or acting like he’s doing you a favor by being with you, RED FLAG. A real man follows this Hadith and appreciates you for the amazing person you are, flaws and all.
5. Your Happiness in Marriage Matters
“The most complete of believers in faith are those with the best character, and the best of you are those who are best to their wives.”
(Sunan al-Tirmidhi 2612)
If his “best character” is reserved for his boys, his boss, or his barista, but you get the dry, emotionless, “wyd?” texts, he’s failing the Hadith test. Islamically, a man is supposed to treat his wife with excellence. Not convenience.
6. Marriage = Respect & Partnership
“The most blessed marriage is the one with the easiest arrangements.”
(Sunan Ibn Majah 1847)
This Hadith isn’t an excuse for men to put in zero effort. It means love isn’t about flashy Instagram proposals or extravagant gifts, it’s about sincerity, kindness, and actual commitment. If he’s dragging his feet about giving you clarity on where you stand, Islamically, that’s a problem.
7. You’re a Queen, Not a Side Quest
“Women are counterparts to men.”
(Sunan Abu Dawood 236)
Islam doesn’t see you as a sidekick or an accessory. You’re an equal partner, not some second-place trophy in his game of life. If he’s making you feel otherwise, he’s the problem, not you.
Final Thoughts: Know Your Worth
The Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) was the ultimate example of how a man should treat a woman, with love, respect, and unwavering commitment. If someone isn’t willing to step up and meet that standard, why are you stepping down to accommodate them?
Your worth is non-negotiable. And Islam already proved that.