Hey ladies! Let’s talk about something that’s bound to make some of you nod your heads so hard, your hijabs might just slip off , the fact that you, yes YOU, deserve to be prioritized in marriage too! Because let’s be real, a lot of cultural mumbo-jumbo has convinced us that a “good wife” is basically a live-in maid, therapist, nurse, chef, and motivational speaker all rolled into one. Oh, and all for free.
But guess what? Islam actually recognizes your worth, your happiness, and your rights in a way that might surprise you. Ready to dive in? Let’s go!
1. Mutual Respect & Love , It’s a Two-Way Street
You’ve probably heard this one before:
“And among His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquility in them; and He placed between you affection and mercy.” (Quran 30:21)
Notice the word “tranquility.” It’s not “stress,” “exhaustion,” or “being taken for granted.” And that “affection and mercy” part? It’s a two-way deal, sister. If you’re the only one pouring the affection while he’s just chilling on the receiving end, something’s definitely off.
2. The Sunnah of Emotional Support
The Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) wasn’t just an amazing leader; he was the ultimate husband goal. Take this Hadith for example:
“The best of you are those who are best to their wives.” (Tirmidhi)
Yep, the Prophet (PBUH) set the bar that high. Emotional support, understanding, kindness , all that good stuff. He wasn’t the kind to just show up at home, grunt at his wife, and zone out while she struggled to manage everything. So, why should your husband be any different?
3. Companionship Means Actual Effort
Islam isn’t about one-sided relationships. The Prophet (PBUH) genuinely spent time with his wives. He even raced with Aisha (RA) , and let’s be real, how many men today would be down for a foot race just to make their wives happy? It’s about quality time and shared happiness, ladies!
4. Financial Responsibilities? Yeah, They’re His!
You probably know this, but let’s emphasize it because some folks act like it’s some kind of secret. Islam actually puts the financial responsibility on the husband. Your money is your money, honey. If you choose to contribute, that’s your generosity, not his right.
“Men are the protectors and maintainers of women…” (Quran 4:34)
If he’s treating you like a co-investor when you never signed up to be one, it’s time for a serious conversation.
5. No Forced Sacrifice
Too often, we’re told that good wives sacrifice their dreams for their husbands. But Islam? Nah, it’s not that dramatic.
The Prophet (PBUH) was supportive of the ambitions and desires of his wives. Khadijah (RA) was a successful businesswoman, and he didn’t just tolerate it , he admired her for it. You are allowed to have dreams and goals beyond just his comfort.
6. Your Happiness Matters, Too
If you think making your husband happy is your only job, you’re being sold a watered-down version of Islam. Your happiness matters. Your voice matters. Your peace matters.
“They are clothing for you and you are clothing for them.” (Quran 2:187)
Clothing provides comfort, protection, and warmth. It’s mutual, balanced, and beautiful. You’re not his raggedy old sweatshirt to be tossed aside when it’s inconvenient.
7. Communication is Key (Yes, Even for Men!)
Let’s be honest, some guys think “communication” is just sending you a thumbs-up emoji when you pour your heart out in a text. But Islam teaches us to be better. The Prophet (PBUH) listened to his wives, valued their opinions, and responded with kindness.
If your husband treats communication like an Olympic sport he never trained for, he’s got some work to do.
In Conclusion
Girl, you are not a backup dancer in the marriage performance. You’re a co-star. Islam acknowledges your value and your right to be prioritized. So, next time someone tries to guilt-trip you for wanting a little love and attention, show them these 7 points. And then maybe ask them if they’ve read the Quran.
Stay blessed, and keep demanding that halal-level love you deserve!