You ever had a ‘situationship’ that ended in emotional trauma, regret, and you questioning every life decision ever? Yeah, same. Turns out, Islam has been dropping truth bombs about this for 1400+ years. Shocking, I know. But for those of us who needed a reminder (cough all of us cough), here are seven times Islam practically screamed at us to steer clear of the wrong man, because, sis, red flags are not a fashion statement.
1. When Allah Said, ‘Don’t Even Go Near Zina’ (Quran 17:32)
Allah didn’t just say ‘don’t do it,’ He literally said don’t even go near it. That means the ‘harmless’ flirting, the texting at 2 AM, the ‘accidental’ physical contact, it’s all leading to a one-way street called Regretville (population: you). If he’s pushing boundaries, trust me, he’s not the one.
2. When The Prophet (ﷺ) Said, ‘A Man and a Woman Alone? Shaytan’s Third-Wheeling’ (Tirmidhi 2165)
If you ever thought, ‘It’s just coffee, relax,’ Islam is here to burst that bubble. The Prophet (ﷺ) warned us that when a man and woman are alone, Shaytan is the third person in the room. And let’s be real, Shaytan is not there to supervise and hand out hijabs.
3. When Allah Told Men to Lower Their Gaze, but Some of Them Didn’t Get the Memo (Quran 24:30-31)
News flash: A man who can’t lower his gaze won’t lower his ego either. If he’s staring you down like you’re the last samosa on the plate, he’s not ‘mesmerized by your beauty’, he’s ignoring a direct command from Allah. And sis, if he can’t follow Allah’s rules, what makes you think he’ll respect yours?
4. When The Prophet (ﷺ) Told Us to Look for Deen Over DMs (Bukhari 5090)
A man with good deen is rare, but a man who can craft the perfect ‘Wyd?’ text at midnight? Those are everywhere. The Prophet (ﷺ) told us a man’s character and deen are what matter most, not his gym gains, his beard game, or how well he can quote love poetry. If his only ‘deen’ is his name, run.
5. When Islam Told Us Modesty Isn’t Just About Clothing (Quran 33:59)
Let’s talk vibes. Modesty isn’t just about hijabs and abayas, it’s also about your energy, your boundaries, and the way you carry yourself. If you’re around a guy who makes you feel like you need to compromise any of that? He’s gotta go.
6. When The Prophet (ﷺ) Said, ‘You’re on the Religion of Your Closest Friends’ (Abu Dawood 4833)
Translation? Who you surround yourself with affects your soul. If you’re entertaining a guy who’s got commitment issues, a weak connection with Allah, and an even weaker connection with the truth (cough serial liar cough), you’re setting yourself up for heartbreak.
7. When Islam Told Us That the Right Man Will Come the Right Way (Quran 2:221, 24:26)
If he’s serious about you, he’s serious about doing things the halal way. No sneaky links. No ‘we’re just talking.’ No ‘we’ll get married in five years but act married now.’ Islam teaches us that pure hearts find each other through pure means. So if he’s making you question your worth or your relationship with Allah, he’s already the wrong guy.
Sis, Protect Your Heart Like You Protect Your Skincare Routine
Islam isn’t here to ‘restrict’ you; it’s here to protect you. The wrong man can cost you years of healing, while the right man will bring you closer to Allah. So take the hints, guard your heart, and remember, red flags aren’t meant to be collected like Pokémon cards.
Now, go text your bestie, send her this article, and say: ‘We gotta talk.’