Let’s be real, sis. You told yourself never again, but here you are, staring at your phone, waiting for that one text. That guy with the “just friends” vibe who somehow ends up making you question your entire Deen? Yeah, we need to talk.
Falling into haram love is like slipping on a banana peel, one second you’re walking the straight path, and the next, you’re in full Ya Allah, help me mode. But don’t worry, I got you. Here are 8 Islamic ways to finally, actually, once-and-for-all avoid falling into haram love.
1. Stop Feeding Your Heart Junk Food
Just like your body, your heart craves what you feed it. If your playlist is full of love songs, your Netflix queue is drowning in romantic dramas, and your IG explore page is 99% couples holding hands under fairy lights, then of course you’re going to feel like you need romance in your life.
Islamic Remedy: Fill your heart with Quran, dhikr, and reminders of Jannah. Love for Allah is the only love that won’t leave you on read at 3 AM.
2. Lower Your Gaze (Like, Actually Do It)
Yes, sis, even online. Stalking that one brother’s Instagram page at 2 AM, zooming in on his vacation pics, and wondering if he’s “The One” is not lowering your gaze. The Prophet ﷺ said: “The (second) glance is from Shaytan.” (Tirmidhi)
Islamic Remedy: Unfollow, mute, block, whatever it takes. Out of sight, out of heart.
3. Recognize Shaytan’s Playbook
Shaytan’s script is so predictable: He makes sin look innocent. First, it’s “just a message.” Then, “just a deep convo.” And before you know it, you’re emotionally attached to someone who isn’t even your mahram.
Islamic Remedy: If you wouldn’t feel comfortable having that convo in front of your dad, delete it.
4. Surround Yourself with Happily Ever After Role Models
If your closest friends are hyping toxic love stories, you’ll start romanticizing your own unhealthy situations. Instead, take notes from real Muslim couples who got it right.
Islamic Remedy: Follow Islamic relationship coaches or read about the love of Khadijah (RA) and the Prophet ﷺ. A love that’s pure, blessed, and drama-free? Yes, please.
5. Keep Yourself Too Busy for Drama
Boredom is dangerous. When you have too much free time, your brain will automatically start scripting your own personal halal-ish rom-com.
Islamic Remedy: Pack your schedule with beneficial activities, Quran circles, charity work, learning new skills. The busier you are with good deeds, the less time you’ll have for Astagfirullah moments.
6. Remember, Your Future Husband is Also Avoiding Haram
Imagine this: While you’re out here dodging unnecessary conversations, your future husband is doing the same. The more you protect yourself now, the better your marriage will be, inshaAllah.
Islamic Reminder: The Prophet ﷺ said, “Good women are for good men, and good men are for good women.” (Quran 24:26) Focus on being the right person instead of chasing the wrong ones.
7. Upgrade Your Dua Game
If you’re not actively asking Allah to protect your heart from haram, how do you expect to win this battle?
Dua Power Move: Say this often: “Ya Muqallibal quloob, thabbit qalbi ‘ala deenik” (O Turner of hearts, keep my heart firm upon Your religion). (Tirmidhi)
8. Find a Halal Alternative to That Emotional Fix
We’re human, we crave love and connection. But instead of catching feelings for someone who won’t put a ring on it the right way, redirect that love into something halal.
Halal Solution: Get into self-improvement, start journaling, and most importantly, build your connection with Allah. The more you seek His love, the less you’ll chase temporary attachments.
Final Thoughts: Are You Ready to Protect Your Heart?
Sis, you deserve a love story written by Allah, not one directed by Shaytan. Protect your heart, guard your soul, and watch how Allah replaces what you lost with something way better.
What’s one thing you struggle with when avoiding haram relationships? Drop your thoughts below, I’d love to hear from you!