Ladies, let’s be real, finding a good man these days feels like searching for WiFi in the middle of the desert. You think you’ve found one, but then, boom!, his personality is as unstable as your connection. So, how do you filter out the red flags and spot the REAL husband material?
Good news! Islam already gave us the blueprint. Here are 8 Sunnah-approved qualities that make a man worthy of Nikah (and your precious time). Get ready, because some of these might surprise you!
1. He Has Taqwa (God-Consciousness) – Not Just a Beard!
Sisters, a thick beard does not equal a thick Iman. A true man of Taqwa fears Allah in public and private. He’s not just reposting Islamic quotes but actually living by them. The Prophet (ﷺ) said:
“The most complete of believers in faith are those best in character.” (Tirmidhi)
Red flag alert: If he only flexes his “deen” on social media but his real-life actions scream Netflix and neglect, you might want to keep scrolling.
2. He Respects Women – Yes, ALL Women!
A man who’s sweet to you but rude to waitresses, his mother, or his sisters? RUN.
Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) was the best to his wives. He helped with chores, spoke kindly, and never belittled them. If he’s more worried about you covering your ankles than about treating women with dignity, Houston, we have a problem.
3. He’s Financially Responsible (Not a Momma’s Boy)
Sis, love is beautiful, but bills are real. A husband should be someone who provides, not someone who expects his wife to be his financial backup plan.
“Men are the protectors and maintainers of women…” (Quran 4:34)
This doesn’t mean he has to be a millionaire, but he should have a stable plan. If he’s still asking his mom for lunch money,
4. He Controls His Anger (No Halal Hulks Allowed)
Islam teaches us that real strength isn’t in fists but in self-control. The Prophet (ﷺ) said:
“The strong is not the one who overcomes the people by his strength, but the strong is the one who controls himself while in anger.” (Bukhari)
A man who yells, throws things, or pouts like a toddler over small issues? That’s a preview of your future stress levels. Choose peace.
5. He’s Emotionally Intelligent (Not a Stone Wall)
If he thinks “insha’Allah” is an acceptable response to your feelings instead of actually listening, we have a problem. A Sunnah-approved husband is kind, patient, and emotionally available, not a distant wall of “k.”
The Prophet (ﷺ) said: “The best of you are those who are best to their wives.” (Tirmidhi)
If he dismisses your emotions like yesterday’s leftovers,
6. He Has Good Hygiene (Because Sunnah and Self-Respect!)
Listen, no one’s expecting cologne commercials, but if his idea of grooming is rolling out of bed and calling it a day, we need to talk. The Prophet (ﷺ) emphasized cleanliness big time:
“Purity is half of faith.” (Muslim)
This means brushing teeth (hello, Miswak!), trimming nails, and smelling good, because B.O. is NOT Barakah, sis.
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7. He Respects Your Boundaries (No “Just One Coffee?” Guy Allowed)
A man who truly respects you will not pressure you into anything haram. No “just one phone call”, “just one coffee”, or “just one hug”, because he knows that’s a slippery slope.
If he’s pushing limits now, imagine when the tests of marriage hit?
8. He’s Your Peace, Not Your Stress
Marriage isn’t just about love, it’s about sakoon (tranquility). The Quran says:
“And among His signs is that He created for you spouses from among yourselves, so that you may find tranquility in them…” (Quran 30:21)
If he’s already causing you mental gymnastics before marriage, what happens after?
Pro Tip: When choosing a spouse, ask yourself:
- Do I feel at peace with him?
- Does he bring me closer to Allah?
- Is he trustworthy and kind?
If the answer isn’t a resounding YES, then, sis… next!
Final Thoughts: Choose Wisely, Queen!
Marriage isn’t a TikTok trend, it’s a lifelong commitment. Don’t lower your standards for a guy who can’t even meet the basics of Islamic character.