Sisters, let’s be real. You know that relationship isn’t halal. You know you shouldn’t be texting him back at 2 AM, but somehow, you keep falling for the same old tricks. Why? Because Shaitan is the ultimate toxic ex, he whispers lies, gaslights you, and keeps you trapped in haram relationships that drain your iman.
If you’re stuck in a haram relationship, this post is your wake-up call. Let’s expose the 9 sneaky tricks Shaitan uses to keep you locked in sin, and how to break free before it’s too late!
1. “But He’s a Good Person!”
Shaitan loves this excuse. He’ll make you believe that because he’s nice to you, it’s all fine. But sis, being nice doesn’t equal halal. Fir’aun fed people too, but look where he ended up!
“Do not follow the footsteps of Shaitan. Indeed, he is a clear enemy to you.” (Quran 2:168)
Escape Plan: Ask yourself, Is he bringing me closer to Allah or closer to haram? If it’s the latter, block and repent ASAP.
2. “We’re Going to Get Married Anyway!”
Classic trap. Shaitan makes you think that just because marriage is the eventual plan, the haram stuff in between is justified. Newsflash: a sin doesn’t turn halal just because you slap a future nikkah on it.
How many girls wasted years waiting for a guy who never committed? Don’t be next!
Escape Plan: If he’s serious, let him meet your wali and propose. No wali = No commitment = You’re being played.
3. “We’re Just Talking… It’s Harmless!”
Suuuure, and I’m just “tasting” cake while on a diet. Shaitan convinces you that those late-night chats and cute emojis are totally innocent, but sis, everything haram starts small.
“And do not even go near zina. Indeed, it is an immorality and an evil way.” (Quran 17:32)
Escape Plan: Guard your heart. If you wouldn’t say it in front of your parents or Allah on Judgment Day, don’t say it at all.
4. “But I Love Him!”
Ah, the ultimate heartbreaker. Love isn’t an excuse for sin, sis. Shaitan wants you to think your emotions justify disobedience to Allah. But real love brings you closer to Jannah, not Jahannam.
Escape Plan: Love isn’t just a feeling, it’s a choice. Choose Allah over temporary feelings. Trust me, He will replace it with something so much better.
5. “Everyone Else Is Doing It!”
Shaitan will convince you that you’re too extreme if you avoid haram relationships. But sis, do you really want to follow the crowd off a cliff?
“If you obey most of those upon the earth, they will mislead you from the way of Allah.” (Quran 6:116)
Escape Plan: Don’t compare yourself to society. Compare yourself to the righteous women of Islam. What would Khadijah (RA) do? Spoiler: Not text back.
6. “But We’re Learning About Each Other!”
Oh, so he’s your Islamic Studies class now? Shaitan will make you think that endless “getting to know each other” is part of the halal process. But sis, nikah is how you get to know someone, not DMs and coffee dates.
Escape Plan: If he’s serious, let him talk to your wali and set up a proper halal process. Otherwise, you’re just wasting time.
7. “We Make Each Other Better Muslims!”
Shaitan loves this one. He makes you believe that because you remind each other to pray, your haram relationship is somehow blessed. Sis, do you really think Allah approves of a bond built on disobedience?
Escape Plan: If you truly want to grow in deen, surround yourself with people who encourage you to obey Allah, not sin in His name.
8. “I’ll Change Him!”
Ah, the DIY Muslim wife fantasy. Newsflash: You’re not his personal mufti or therapist. If he’s not practicing before marriage, what makes you think he’ll change after?
Escape Plan: Marry someone who is already the man you want, not someone you need to fix.
9. “But I Can’t Live Without Him!”
Let’s be real, you survived before him, and you’ll survive after. This is Shaitan’s biggest lie, that you need haram love to be happy. But true peace comes from Allah, not some guy who leaves you on read.
“Unquestionably, by the remembrance of Allah hearts are assured.” (Quran 13:28)
Escape Plan: Focus on strengthening your relationship with Allah first. When your heart is filled with His love, you won’t settle for anything less than halal and beautiful.
Time to Take Action!
Sisters, it’s time to break free from the cycle of haram relationships! Ask yourself: Is this relationship bringing me closer to Allah or closer to sin? If it’s the latter, cut it off and make sincere tawbah.
Need help staying strong? Check out this Islamic self-development book that guides you on how to strengthen your deen, make better choices, and prepare for a truly blessed marriage. You deserve a love that leads to Jannah, not regret.
What’s the biggest lie Shaitan has told you about relationships? Drop it in the comments below! Let’s expose his tricks together.