Sis, be honest, how many times have you “accidentally” checked his last seen on WhatsApp? Or convinced yourself that DMing him about “Islamic advice” was totally halal? (Spoiler: It wasn’t.)
We get it. The struggle is real. In a world of Instagram DMs, sneaky Snap streaks, and TikTok ‘halal flirting’ trends (yes, that’s a thing now), keeping your heart protected is harder than ever. But guess what? Allah (SWT) gave us all the tools we need to guard ourselves.
So, before you end up writing heartbreak poetry at 3 AM or crying over a guy who doesn’t even pray Fajr, here are 9 powerful ways to keep your heart safe from haram relationships.
1. Unfollow, Block, Repeat.
Yes, sis. That means him. And his “Islamic reminder” posts. And his “accidental” mirror selfies.
Allah says, “Do not approach zina” (Qur’an 17:32). Notice how He didn’t just say, “Don’t do it.” He said, don’t even get close. And let’s be real, liking his gym selfies is getting close. Hit that block button like your akhirah depends on it. Because it does.
2. Wear Your Spiritual Seatbelt: Du’a & Istighfar
Would you drive without a seatbelt? No? Then why are you out here navigating life without constant du’a and istighfar?
The Prophet (ﷺ) said: “Du’a is the weapon of the believer.” (Tirmidhi) Before shaytan convinces you that one reply won’t hurt, make this du’a:
“Ya Allah, protect my heart from anything that takes me away from You.”
Sis, if you’re feeling weak, make istighfar. You need Allah more than you need his validation.
3. Third-Wheel With Your Wali
If a guy is serious about you, he won’t slide into your DMs, he’ll slide into a conversation with your wali (guardian).
The Prophet (ﷺ) said: “No man is alone with a woman but the third of them is shaytan.” (Tirmidhi)
So, if he’s avoiding your wali and only texting you, guess what? That third person in your chat isn’t Jibril (AS).
4. Know Your Worth (It’s Higher Than His Sweet-Talk)
A man once told Fatima bint Muhammad (RA), “You are the leader of all women in Jannah.”
Sis, that’s your worth. Not some guy who texts “wyd” at midnight.
If a man truly values you, he will protect your honor, not put it at risk. Stop entertaining the bare minimum. You are a queen, act like one.
5. Haram-Free Dopamine: Find a Halal Hobby
You don’t need a text from him to feel excited. You know what also gives dopamine?
- Learning Arabic (yes, girl, flex that tajweed!)
- Running a small business (sell hijabs, calligraphy, anything!)
- Cooking like a Michelin-star chef for your future self (or husband, inshaAllah)
Redirect your energy. A productive queen has no time for haram men.
6. Beware of the “Islamic” Love Trap
“But sis, he sends me hadiths! He reminds me to pray! He says he’ll marry me soon!”
Ahem. Shaytan also knows hadiths.
Love isn’t built in DMs. It’s built in nikah, with the blessings of Allah. If he really wants you in his life, he won’t risk leading you into haram. He’ll do it the right way. Period.
7. Turn Your Loneliness Into Love For Allah
Sometimes, we seek haram love because we feel empty. But true love isn’t found in a guy who might leave, it’s found in Allah, who never will.
Allah says, “Indeed, in the remembrance of Allah do hearts find rest.” (Qur’an 13:28)
So instead of checking your phone for his reply, open the Qur’an. That’s a love letter worth reading.
8. Invest in a Halal Relationship Course (Yes, Really!)
If you don’t know how to navigate marriage, learn. There are amazing Islamic relationship courses that teach you how to approach marriage Islamically, without the drama.
Check out [XYZ Course], it’s designed to help Muslim women build strong, halal relationships. Because knowing your worth + understanding Islamic marriage = no more falling for haram traps.
9. Remember Jannah Goals > Dunya Goals
Sis, imagine standing in Jannah, with palaces, rivers of honey, and eternal happiness, all because you protected your heart in the dunya.
Now compare that to a guy who ghosted you.
Yeah. It’s not worth it.
Final Thought: Will You Choose Temporary Heartbreak or Eternal Love?
Sis, I know it’s tough. But Allah will replace what you sacrifice for Him with something better. So, are you ready to protect your heart and level up in your deen?
Drop a in the comments if you’re committing to cutting off haram relationships today! And if you’re serious about preparing for a halal marriage the right way, check out [XYZ Course]. Your future self will thank you.