Let’s be real, sis. You don’t want to be that girl, sliding into DMs with a random “MashAllah, brother,” or strategically positioning yourself in the masjid so he accidentally notices your impeccable hijab game. We’ve all seen it. But deep down, you know that a truly pious man isn’t impressed by theatrics, he’s looking for substance, sincerity, and taqwa.
So, how do you get him to notice you without chasing him like an over-eager auntie at a rishta event? Simple. You become the kind of woman he prays for. Here’s how:
1. Fix Your Relationship With Allah, Not Your Eyebrows
First things first: A righteous man is looking for a woman whose heart beats for Allah, not for the latest eyebrow trend. (No shade to the arch game, but let’s get our priorities straight.)
Allah says in the Quran:
“Good women are for good men, and good men are for good women…” (Quran 24:26)
Translation? You attract what you are. Work on your deen, strengthen your salah, increase your dhikr, and watch how your glow-up, the spiritual kind, turns heads (figuratively, of course, because modesty).
2. Master the Art of Mysterious Modesty
No, this doesn’t mean draping yourself in a tent and avoiding human interaction. Modesty is more than just clothing; it’s an aura. A woman who carries herself with dignity, speaks with wisdom, and doesn’t overshare her entire life on social media has an undeniable allure.
Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) said:
“Modesty does not bring anything except good.” (Sahih Muslim)
Be the woman whose presence demands respect without a single word. Let them wonder what’s behind that poise and elegance, because mystery is magnetic.
3. Level Up Your Akhlaq (Character), Not Just Your Filters
A pious man isn’t looking for someone with just a pretty face; he’s looking for a woman with pretty manners. Smile warmly (but within halal boundaries, of course). Be kind, gentle, and easygoing. No one wants to marry someone who gets into Twitter wars over crescent moon sightings.
The Prophet (ﷺ) said:
“The best among you are those who have the best character.” (Bukhari & Muslim)
So before you invest in another highlighter palette, ask yourself: Is your character shining just as bright?
4. Make Du’a Like You Mean It
No, really. Du’a is the ultimate matchmaking app, it connects you directly to the One who writes love stories. Ask Allah with sincerity and conviction, because He loves when we turn to Him.
The Prophet (ﷺ) said:
“Nothing is more honorable to Allah the Most High than du’a.” (Tirmidhi)
And while you’re at it, make du’a for his guidance, too. After all, you don’t just want a pious man, you want one who’s also praying for you.
5. Invest in Your Growth, Not in Stalking His Timeline
A man of taqwa isn’t looking for a woman who’s obsessed with him, he’s looking for a woman obsessed with her own growth. Read books, take Islamic courses, develop new skills, and become the best version of yourself. Because guess what? A woman with purpose is irresistible.
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6. Let Him Find You, Not the Other Way Around
Here’s the thing: When a man is serious about marriage, he will find a way to pursue you in a halal manner. You don’t have to drop hints, overthink your Instagram captions, or laugh extra loud at his jokes in the masjid courtyard. Stay patient. Stay dignified. Stay in your lane.
Remember: Maryam (AS) didn’t chase Rizq. Rizq came to her. And your husband is part of your Rizq. If he’s meant for you, nothing can stop him from finding you. And if he’s not, trust that Allah has something better written in your qadr.
What’s Your Move Now?
So, sis, which of these are you already working on? Which one hit home the most? Drop a comment below and let’s talk! And if you know a sister who needs this reminder (we all do at some point), share this with her. Who knows? You might be the reason she makes a life-changing du’a today.