Divorce is hard. Co-parenting? A whole new level of “Ya Allah, give me patience!” But guess what? The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) has already left us a goldmine of wisdom on how to handle tough relationships with dignity, patience, and a whole lot of tawakkul (trust in Allah).
So if you’re a young Muslimah navigating the wild world of co-parenting, buckle up! Here are five Sunnah-approved ways to make it work, without the unnecessary drama. (Because let’s be honest, your life is not an Urdu drama serial.)
1. Master the Art of “Ikhlas” (Sincerity) – Even When You Want to Scream
Let’s start with the real talk: Co-parenting means dealing with your ex. A lot. And sometimes, he’ll do things that make you question all your past life choices. But here’s the thing: Your child is watching everything.
The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “Actions are judged by intentions.” (Bukhari, Muslim) So ask yourself, are you making things easier for your child, or are you lowkey trying to prove a point to your ex? (Ouch, I know.)
Keep your niyyah (intention) pure: Do it for the sake of Allah and for your child’s well-being, not for revenge, control, or a “who’s the better parent?” contest.
2. Set Boundaries Like a Queen (With a Side of Rahma)
The Prophet (peace be upon him) was the master of balance. He was kind, but he had boundaries. And sis, you need some too!
Example: No, your ex cannot call you at 11 PM to “check on the kids.” That’s not checking, it’s testing. But if he wants an extra FaceTime with them on Eid? A little rahma (mercy) goes a long way.
Find that balance between standing your ground and being gracious. You’re raising a future Ummah leader, not engaging in a Cold War.
3. Be the Bigger Person (Even When He’s Acting Like a Toddler)
Your ex may forget to pick up your child. He may send passive-aggressive texts. He may even introduce your kid to his new “auntie.” (Deep breaths, sis.) But here’s what the Prophet (peace be upon him) teaches us: “The strong man is not the one who wrestles others, but the one who controls himself when angry.” (Bukhari)
Every time you respond with dignity instead of pettiness, you win. More importantly, your child wins. If the temptation to clap back is too strong, get a journal, a dua list, or a stress ball (or all three).
4. Use Tech to Your Advantage (Because Allah Loves Ease)
Not a fan of direct conversations? There’s an app for that. Literally. Co-parenting apps like OurFamilyWizard and TalkingParents exist for a reason, so you can communicate without the unnecessary emotional rollercoaster.
Plus, Islam encourages making things easy. The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “Make things easy and do not make them difficult.” (Bukhari) So why stress over WhatsApp arguments when you can keep everything professional, clear, and drama-free in an app?
P.S. Bonus: These apps also track communication, so no one can play the “I never said that” game. (We see you, Ahmed.)
5. Dua, Dua, and More Dua (Because Allah is the Best Planner)
At the end of the day, you can set all the boundaries, practice all the patience, and use all the apps, but Allah is still in control. So make dua like your life depends on it (because, let’s be real, it does).
The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “The supplication of a parent for their child is accepted.” (Tirmidhi) So ask Allah for wisdom, for your child’s emotional well-being, and, if it’s not too much to ask, for your ex to finally understand the meaning of “responsibility.”
Final Thoughts: You’ve Got This, Sis!
Co-parenting isn’t easy, but you are built for this. With sincerity, boundaries, patience, and a little help from modern tech, you can raise a happy, well-adjusted child, without unnecessary stress.
What’s been your biggest co-parenting struggle so far? Let’s chat in the comments! And if you need a co-parenting app that aligns with Islamic values, check out , because let’s be honest, we all need a little extra help sometimes.