Ah, love. One minute, you’re making dua with the confidence of a sahabi, asking Allah to send you the one. The next minute, you’re staring at your phone, debating whether that “seen” on WhatsApp is a sign of divine intervention or just bad Wi-Fi.
Sound familiar?
If you’re a young Muslim woman navigating love and uncertainty, let me introduce you to your new bestie: Tawakkul (trust in Allah). Trust me, when your situationship starts looking like a Qiyamah-level test, Tawakkul is the life raft you need.
But how do you actually develop Tawakkul when your heart is playing emotional gymnastics? Let’s break it down, sis.
1. Remember Who Holds Your Love Story (Hint: Not Your Situationship!)
Repeat after me: Qadr Allah, wa ma sha fa’al (“It is the decree of Allah, and He does what He wills”).
Your love story isn’t in the hands of that guy who responds in 0.3 seconds when he’s interested but takes 3-5 business days when he’s “thinking.” It’s written by the One who knows what’s best for you.
The Prophet ﷺ said: “Know that what has passed you by was not going to befall you, and what has befallen you was not going to pass you by.” (Tirmidhi)
So, instead of overanalyzing his mixed signals, analyze your trust in Allah’s timing.
2. Detach, but Make Dua Like a Boss
Somewhere between reading Istikhara for Dummies and stalking his Instagram likes, we forget the golden rule: Dua isn’t just about asking, it’s about trusting.
Allah says in the Quran: “And your Lord says, ‘Call upon Me; I will respond to you.’” (Quran 40:60)
So, go ahead. Make that dua with your whole heart, but don’t act like Allah’s promises depend on how many tahajjuds you’ve prayed this week. Tawakkul means knowing that whatever the outcome, it’s for your own good, even if it’s not what you wanted.
3. Stop Trying to ‘Soft Launch’ Your Own Destiny
You know how people “soft launch” relationships with vague captions and cropped-out hands? Yeah, we do the same thing with our faith. We trust Allah, but only halfway. We make dua, but also have a backup plan (aka checking if his mom follows back on Instagram).
True Tawakkul is full surrender. You do your part, pray, reflect, make an effort, and then leave the rest to Allah. No backup plans. No emotional “soft launches.” Just full-on tawakkul-core energy.
4. Upgrade Your Heart with Sabr & Self-Worth
Sis, real talk: If you’re constantly anxious about where you stand with someone, maybe it’s time to evaluate where you stand with yourself.
Allah reminds us: “Indeed, with hardship comes ease.” (Quran 94:6)
Sometimes, love feels uncertain because we’re seeking validation from a person rather than from our Creator. Strengthening your self-worth isn’t about being “hard to get”, it’s about knowing that you deserve someone who values you the way Allah does.
And let’s be honest: a man who truly fears Allah will fear mistreating you. That’s the standard.
5. Use Tools That Help You Stay Grounded
When emotions are running wild, grounding yourself is key. One way to do this? Journaling your duas. It’s like therapy, but cheaper (and halal).
If you struggle with trusting Allah’s plan, try using a guided Islamic journal like The Dua Journal: Trust in Him. It helps you track your prayers, reflect on your emotions, and build actual Tawakkul instead of just saying you have it. Because let’s be real, sometimes we need receipts.
The Final Mic Drop: Tawakkul is Your Superpower
At the end of the day, love is a risk. But when you have Tawakkul? You’re not just taking a risk, you’re placing your heart in the hands of the Most Merciful.
So, sis, tell me: What’s the hardest part about trusting Allah when it comes to love? Drop your thoughts in the comments, I promise you’re not alone!