You’re young, you’re Muslim, and you’re navigating the absolute rollercoaster of love, attraction, and trying to stay halal in a world that’s constantly testing your patience. The struggle is real. One minute, you’re just innocently checking your messages, and the next, you’re in a deep late-night chat with someone who might just be “the one.” ( Girl, you know exactly what I mean!)
So how do you keep your love pure without feeling like a medieval nun? Let’s dive into five Sunnah-inspired steps that’ll keep your heart clean, your intentions clear, and your Akhirah goals intact.
1. Set Clear Boundaries Like Your Iman Depends on It (Because It Does!)
First things first, if you don’t have clear boundaries, Shaytan is gonna have a field day with your emotions. Islam gives us the perfect blueprint: lower your gaze (Quran 24:30-31), avoid unnecessary chit-chat that leads to attachment, and keep interactions purpose-driven.
Solution: If you’re considering someone, keep convos structured. Apps like Salams or Muzmatch let you involve your wali early, so you’re not just “vibing” for six months with no real direction. Your heart deserves clarity, not confusion!
2. Your Friends Shouldn’t Be Your Third Wheel, Allah Should!
Ever heard of the hadith where the Prophet ﷺ said, “Whenever a man is alone with a woman, Shaytan is the third among them” (Tirmidhi)? Yeah, that applies to your DMs too! Just because it’s virtual doesn’t mean it’s invisible to Allah.
Reality Check: No, a “harmless” private chat isn’t harmless when your heart is at risk. Keep convos public or involve a third party when discussing serious matters. If he respects your boundaries, he’s worth your time. If he calls you “too extreme”… Next!
3. Fast, Yes, Literally!
Struggling to keep your emotions in check? The Prophet ﷺ straight-up told us: “O young people! Whoever among you is able to marry, let him marry… And whoever is not able to, let him fast, for it will be a shield for him” (Bukhari, Muslim).
Try this: Make fasting your bestie. Not only will it keep you spiritually in check, but your skin will glow, your self-control will sharpen, and you’ll be too busy avoiding hunger mood swings to overthink his last text. Win-win!
4. Duaa Like Your Heart’s GPS Depends on It (Because It Does!)
Nothing will guide you like sincere duaa. Allah literally wants you to ask Him for help. The best duaa for this? “Our Lord, grant us from among our spouses and offspring comfort to our eyes and make us an example for the righteous.” (Quran 25:74)
Heartfelt Tip: If you’re constantly unsure about a person, pray Istikhara. If he’s meant for you, Allah will make it easy. If he’s not? You’ll either feel uneasy or things will naturally fall apart. No need to force what isn’t written for you.
5. Stop Romanticizing the Haram (Netflix Ain’t Helping, Sis)
The reason so many struggle with pure love? We’re drowning in unrealistic love stories. If your idea of romance is shaped by Bollywood, K-Dramas, or some rom-com where the guy “changes for the girl”… girl, wake up! Islam teaches us that real love isn’t just about feelings, it’s about sacrifice, commitment, and faith.
Spiritual Detox: Swap those romance flicks for stories about the love between the Prophet ﷺ and Khadijah (RA). That’s the kind of halal love story you actually need. No fake drama, just real devotion.
Final Thought: Protect Your Heart Like It’s Limited Edition
Your love is precious. Don’t waste it on dead-end situationships or emotionally-draining connections that have no future. Follow the Sunnah, set your boundaries, and let Allah guide you to the right person at the right time.
Now, tell me in the comments, what’s the hardest part about keeping love pure before marriage? Let’s chat, sis!