Ladies, let’s talk. If you’ve ever found yourself lying awake at 2 AM, staring at the ceiling, thinking, “Will I ever get married?” or “Did I say the wrong thing to him?”, congratulations! You are officially overthinking. And guess what? Overthinking is like running on a treadmill, you burn a lot of mental energy but get nowhere.
But here’s the good news: Islam has already given us the perfect blueprint to deal with this emotional rollercoaster. And no, it doesn’t involve endlessly scrolling through halal Tinder profiles. Let’s dive into five Sunnah-approved ways to stop overthinking and start thriving.
1. Trust Allah’s Timing (Seriously, Stop Stalking His Instagram)
We love to say “Tawakkul ‘ala Allah” (Trust in Allah), but do we really? If you’re constantly checking if he watched your latest story or analyzing his last “seen” on WhatsApp, then, sis, it’s time for a reality check.
What the Sunnah Says:
The Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) said: “Know that what has passed you by was not going to befall you, and what has befallen you was not going to pass you by.” (Tirmidhi 2516)
Translation? If it’s meant for you, it will come. If not, no amount of investigative work will change that. So take a deep breath and let Allah do His job!
2. Dua, But Make It Powerful (Not Just a Wishlist to Jannah’s Amazon)
We all make dua for a righteous spouse, but how do we do it? Are we treating Allah like a vending machine? Insert a few *Ameen!*s and expect our dream husband to pop out?
What the Sunnah Says:
The Prophet (ﷺ) said: “When one of you makes a supplication, let him be firm and not say: ‘O Allah, if You will, give me,’ for there is no one to compel Him.” (Bukhari 6339)
In other words, ask like you mean it! And don’t just ask for a spouse, ask for contentment, wisdom, and a heart that trusts Allah’s plan.
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3. Keep Busy (Because the Best Love Story is with Yourself First)
If your daily schedule consists of crying over nikkah memes and rewatching that one romantic Islamic lecture for the 15th time, it’s time for a glow-up. The Prophet (ﷺ) was an action taker. He built a community, helped people, and moved forward, so why shouldn’t you?
What the Sunnah Says:
The Prophet (ﷺ) said: “Take advantage of five before five: your youth before your old age, your health before your illness, your wealth before your poverty, your free time before your work, and your life before your death.” (Tirmidhi 2346)
Translation? Stop waiting. Start living. Pick up a skill, memorize a Surah, volunteer, just do something that adds to your life instead of obsessing over what’s missing.
4. Your Worth is NOT Tied to a Marriage Proposal (So Stop Acting Like It Is)
The number of rishtas you receive is not a reflection of your value. Read that again.
What the Sunnah Says:
Aisha (RA) remained unmarried until she married the Prophet (ﷺ) at a divinely decreed time. Khadijah (RA) was a business mogul before she got married. Their worth wasn’t tied to proposals, it was in their character, faith, and achievements.
So instead of thinking, “Why is no one proposing?”, start asking, “How can I become a stronger Muslimah, regardless of my relationship status?”
5. Red Flags? Run Faster Than Yusuf (AS) From Zulaikha!
Let’s be real. Sometimes, overthinking comes from ignoring obvious signs. If a guy is making you anxious, confused, or constantly questioning his intentions, he’s probably NOT your qadr.
What the Sunnah Says:
The Prophet (ﷺ) said: “Leave that which makes you doubt for that which does not make you doubt.” (Tirmidhi 2518)
Meaning? If you’re constantly worried about him, chances are, he’s not the right one. Trust the signs, and protect your peace.
Final Thoughts: Your Life is Bigger Than Marriage
Marriage is a blessing, but it’s not the only blessing. Whether you’re single, engaged, or married, your ultimate goal should always be Allah’s pleasure.
So, let’s make a pact: Instead of stressing over when love will come, let’s focus on who we are when it does.
What’s the one Sunnah habit that helps you stay at peace about marriage? Drop your thoughts below, I’d love to hear!