Ladies, let’s be real, some of y’all are out here settling for the bare minimum. And I mean bare. The man says “Assalamu Alaikum” once a day, and suddenly he’s the next Abu Bakr (RA)? He remembers your birthday, and now you think he’s the most romantic man alive? No, sis. You deserve better.
Islam doesn’t just encourage respect in marriage, it demands it. And if anyone tells you otherwise, they’re either misinformed or just don’t want to do better. So, let’s dive into five Hadith that prove you deserve a husband who respects, values, and cherishes you.
1. He Should Be Gentle, Not a Walking Red Flag
The Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) said:
“The best among you are those who are best to their wives.” (Tirmidhi 1162)
Did you catch that? Not the best Quran reciter. Not the best FIFA player. The best man is the one who treats his wife with kindness. If he’s always dismissing your feelings, belittling you, or making you question your worth, he’s not him, sis. Keep scrolling.
2. Marriage Is a Partnership, Not a Servitude Contract
The Prophet (PBUH) used to help with household chores, yes, the Messenger of Allah washed dishes and sewed his own clothes. (Bukhari 676)
So why is Ahmed acting like taking out the trash is beneath him? If the best man to walk this earth did his part at home, your man can too. If he thinks “helping around the house” makes him less of a man, hand him a history book.
3. He Should Honor You, Not Just Put a Ring on It
“A believing man should not hate a believing woman. If he dislikes something in her, he should be pleased with another.” (Muslim 1468)
Translation? Love isn’t about nitpicking your flaws, it’s about appreciating the whole package. If he’s constantly pointing out what you lack instead of cherishing what you bring to the table, he’s not fulfilling his role. A real man uplifts, not undermines.
4. Respect Includes Emotional Support
Aisha (RA) narrated how the Prophet (PBUH) would comfort her when she was upset. (Bukhari 5375)
Now, if your husband can’t even text back within a reasonable time, let alone console you when you’re down, Houston, we have a problem. Emotional intelligence is part of respect. Your feelings matter, and a good husband knows how to listen without turning every conversation into a TED Talk about himself.
5. You Are a Queen, Not an Afterthought
“Treat women kindly.” (Bukhari 5185)
That’s not a suggestion, it’s a direct command from the Prophet (PBUH). Respect isn’t a bonus feature in a husband. It’s the bare minimum. If he treats you like an inconvenience, like an unpaid therapist, or like an extra in his life story, exit stage left.
Real Talk: What’s Next?
If you’re single, don’t let desperation lower your standards. If you’re married, know that you deserve to be treated with dignity and love. And if you’re wondering, where do I find a man like this?, first, make du’a. Second, check out [Insert Product Here], a practical guide on Islamic marriage, self-worth, or even a halal matchmaking service that actually understands your values.
Now, tell me in the comments, what’s one trait you won’t compromise on in a husband? Let’s talk!