Ladies, we need to talk. You’re scrolling through Instagram, and BOOM, his recitation video pops up. Your heart? Suddenly doing sujood. Your mind? Already picking out baby names. But WAIT, before you spiral into a halal-romance fantasy that doesn’t exist yet (and might never), let’s get serious about handling these feelings Islamically. Because, sis, Shaytan is working overtime, and we’re not giving him the paycheck.
Here’s how you can handle that crush without stepping into haram territory:
1. Acknowledge It, Don’t Romanticize It
Islam never tells you to suppress natural emotions. The problem isn’t having a crush, it’s what you do with it. Instead of replaying that accidental eye contact moment like it’s a scene from a rom-com, remind yourself: It’s just a feeling. It doesn’t mean he’s my qadr. Keep your heart in check and move wisely.
2. Lower Your Gaze (Yes, Even on Social Media)
The Quran straight-up commands us: “Tell the believing women to lower their gaze and guard their modesty…” (Surah An-Nur 24:31). If your heart starts doing cartwheels every time you see him in your feed, mute, unfollow, or block, whatever it takes to protect your peace. Out of sight, out of mind.
3. Remember: Not Every Nice Guy is ‘The One’
He prays? Alhamdulillah. He has a beard? MashAllah. He breathes? … Let’s not lower our standards that much. Just because he’s a good Muslim doesn’t mean he’s destined to be your husband. Don’t let a crush cloud your judgment.
4. Make Dua, But Keep It Realistic
Dua is powerful, but let’s be clear: “Ya Allah, make him my husband or let me disappear” is NOT a balanced supplication. Instead, pray for a spouse that will bring you closer to Allah, whether it’s him or someone even better. Trust Allah’s plan over your momentary feelings.
5. Avoid Unnecessary Interaction
If you don’t need to talk to him, don’t. Simple. The Prophet (ﷺ) said: “A man and a woman are not alone together but the third of them is Shaytan.” (Tirmidhi) And, girl, Shaytan is a certified matchmaker for haram relationships. Don’t give him the opportunity.
6. Find a Halal Distraction
The best way to kill a crush? Outgrow it. Redirect your energy into something more beneficial, Quran memorization, fitness, painting, a side hustle, ANYTHING but refreshing his LinkedIn profile. A busy mind doesn’t have time for heartache.
7. Strengthen Your Relationship With Allah
The closer you get to Allah, the more you’ll realize that no human can ever fill the void that only He can. Start reading more Quran, increase your dhikr, and reflect on what truly matters. A heart occupied with Allah doesn’t wander into distractions.
8. Consider Marriage, The Right Way
If the feelings are serious, and he’s genuinely a good match, involve your wali. Islam doesn’t promote secret relationships or endless texting marathons disguised as ‘getting to know each other.’ It’s either moving toward halal, or moving on.
9. Wear That ‘Crush Protection’ Fragrance
Okay, hear me out. Sometimes, you need external help to shift your mindset. A scent can do that! Try a non-toxic, alcohol-free halal perfume that makes YOU feel confident, empowered, and unattached. (Check out this one– a scent so good, you’ll forget about him and start falling in love with yourself instead!)
Final Thoughts
Crushes are temporary, Jannah is eternal. Don’t trade your peace, dignity, or deen for a fleeting emotion. Now tell me: What’s your go-to halal distraction when you catch feelings? Drop your tips in the comments!