Sis, we need to talk. You know that deep dive you take into his Instagram every night? The way you analyze his one-word replies like you’re decoding ancient scripture? Yeah… it might be time for a wake-up call. Love is beautiful, but if your heart is more invested in him than in Him (Allah), we have a problem.
Here are 7 signs you might be prioritizing love over your deen, and what you can do about it. Buckle up, sis, because I’m coming for all of us.
1. Your Duas Sound Like a Marriage Application
“Ya Allah, please let him text back. Ya Allah, make him my husband. Ya Allah, let him realize I’m the one.”
Now, there’s nothing wrong with making dua for marriage, in fact, you should! But if the only time you raise your hands in dua is to secure your man, we’ve got an issue. What about asking for guidance? For stronger iman? For barakah in your time, rizq, and health?
Fix it: Shift your duas to include yourself beyond just your love life. Ask Allah to make you the best version of yourself, whether or not marriage is in the picture right now.
2. You Know His Schedule Better Than Your Prayer Times
Be honest. Do you know when Asr is today? Or is your brain only tracking when he’s online on WhatsApp?
The Prophet (SAW) said, “The first deed for which a person will be brought to account on the Day of Judgment will be his Salah.” (Abu Dawood) Sooo, if you’re stalking his status updates more than checking your prayer times, it’s time to realign your priorities.
Fix it: Download a prayer app (like Muslim Pro or Athan) and set LOUD notifications. Treat it like your personal “divine reminder” that Allah deserves more of your attention than any guy ever will.
3. You Check Your Reflection More Than You Check Your Heart
Hair laid, outfit on point, selfies taken at just the right angles, all in case he sees you today. But when was the last time you checked in on your heart? On your sincerity, humility, and love for Allah?
The Prophet (SAW) said, “Allah does not look at your appearance or wealth, but He looks at your hearts and deeds.” (Muslim) So while looking good is great, making sure your heart is pure is even better.
Fix it: Spend as much time perfecting your character as you do your eyeliner. Work on your patience, kindness, and connection with Allah, because THAT is what truly makes you beautiful.
4. You Skip Islamic Lectures But Never Miss His Calls
Tired? Busy? Not in the mood? That’s your excuse when your mom invites you to an Islamic talk. But let him call at 2 AM and suddenly you have all the energy in the world.
Sis… priorities.
Fix it: Make a rule: For every 30 minutes you spend texting or thinking about him, dedicate at least 10 minutes to something Islamic, a lecture, Quran recitation, or even just istighfar. Balance is key.
5. You Think More About Your “Future Husband” Than Jannah
You’ve already planned your wedding colors, the guest list, and even what kind of home you’ll live in. But have you planned for Jannah? Or are you only dreaming of a man, not eternal paradise?
Allah says in the Quran, “And the Hereafter is better and more enduring.” (87:17) So while marriage is a blessing, the ultimate goal is to meet Allah in the best state.
Fix it: Make a Jannah vision board, just like you do for marriage. What kind of palace do you want? What kind of people do you want to be surrounded by? Set real goals beyond just #CoupleGoals.
6. You Wear Hijab for the Aesthetic, Not the Submission
We love a good modest fashion moment. But if your hijab only comes out when it’s cute or convenient, that’s a red flag. Hijab is not just a look, it’s an act of obedience.
Allah says, “And tell the believing women to lower their gaze and guard their chastity and to not display their adornment…” (24:31) The point? Modesty isn’t about impressing others; it’s about pleasing Allah.
Fix it: If hijab is a struggle, start by learning its why and surrounding yourself with sisters who inspire you. Need a confidence boost? Check out brands like Haute Hijab for stylish, comfortable options that make modesty easier.
7. You Feel Empty Without His Attention
When he texts, your heart races. When he doesn’t, you feel… lost. Sis, if your happiness depends on a guy’s validation, you’re putting your worth in the wrong hands.
Allah says, “Verily, in the remembrance of Allah do hearts find rest.” (13:28) No man can give you the fulfillment that a strong relationship with Allah can.
Fix it: Start your mornings with Quran and dhikr before scrolling through messages. Find peace in your company and Allah’s presence before you seek it from anyone else.
Final Thoughts: Time for a Heart Reset
If any (or all) of these hit home, don’t panic. The fact that you’re here means you care about your deen, and that’s already a huge step. Love isn’t haram, but obsession at the cost of your faith? That’s where the danger lies.
So, let’s talk: Which sign hit you the hardest? And what’s one thing you can do today to shift your focus back to Allah? Drop your thoughts in the comments, let’s grow together.