Alright, sis. Let’s talk. You’re scrolling through social media, seeing yet another “dreamy” halal wedding video, and suddenly, you’re in full crisis mode. Am I ready for marriage? Is my iman strong enough? Or worse… Will my future husband think I’m more invested in my bridal henna than my faith?
Breathe. Before you worry about matching wedding decor, let’s focus on something way more important, your relationship with Allah. Because, let’s be real, marriage isn’t a magical iman booster. If anything, it’s like spiritual weightlifting, and you need to train before stepping into the ring.
So, let’s get into 10 Sunnah-approved ways to strengthen your iman, before you say Qabul!
1. Wake Up for Fajr (Yes, Even If You Sleep Like a Koala)
We all say we love Allah, but let’s be honest, if snoozing the Fajr alarm was an Olympic sport, some of us would be gold medalists.
The Prophet ﷺ said:
“The two rak‘ahs before Fajr are better than this world and all that is in it.” (Muslim)
That means dragging yourself out of bed at dawn is the glow-up your soul needs. Pro tip: Set your alarm tone to an ayah from the Quran. Try snoozing that without guilt-tripping yourself. I dare you.
2. Become Besties with the Quran (Instead of Netflix)
Listen, I get it. That new drama just dropped, and the cliffhangers? Brutal. But imagine if you binged Surah Al-Kahf on Fridays the way you binge your favorite show?
Allah says:
“Indeed, this Qur’an guides to that which is most suitable.” (Quran 17:9)
Make the Quran your ultimate self-help book. (Bonus: It won’t tell you to “manifest” your rizq, it straight up guarantees it.)
3. Learn About Marriage (Before Instagram Misinforms You)
The Prophet ﷺ literally gave us the blueprint for a happy marriage. No, sis, it’s not about “finding a man who buys you Birkin bags.” It’s about:
- Mutual respect
- Emotional intelligence
- Patience (because your husband will forget anniversaries, trust me)
Read The Prophet’s ﷺ Marriage by Imam Ghazali or attend a pre-marriage Islamic workshop. No cringe TikTok marriage “advice” necessary.
4. Ditch Gossip & Drama (It’s NOT a Personality Trait)
We love to blame “toxic energy” on others, but let’s be real. That WhatsApp auntie group? That influencer spilling tea? You don’t need that negativity.
The Prophet ﷺ said:
“Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day should speak a good word or remain silent.” (Bukhari)
Basically, if it ain’t benefitting your akhirah, it’s not your business.
5. Master Dua (Your Personal Spiritual Hotline)
Before you stress over finding “The One,” remember: Allah already wrote your love story before you were born. Instead of worrying, make dua like your life depends on it (because it kinda does).
The Prophet ﷺ said:
“Dua is worship.” (Tirmidhi)
Need a powerful supplication? Say this:
“Rabbana atina fid-dunya hasanatan wa fil-akhirati hasanatan wa qina ‘adhaban-naar.” (Quran 2:201)
Translation: Ya Allah, bless me with goodness in this life and the next, and save me from the Fire. (Aka: The ultimate glow-up dua!)
6. Rock That Modesty Like a Queen
No, this isn’t about forcing you into head-to-toe black abayas (unless that’s your vibe, then go off, sis). Modesty isn’t just about clothes, it’s a lifestyle.
The Prophet ﷺ said:
“Modesty is part of faith.” (Bukhari)
Find modest fashion brands that align with your values. (Pro tip: There are some stunning hijab-friendly outfits that are cuter than half the fast-fashion nonsense out there.)
7. Upgrade Your Circle (Good Vibes Only, Please)
If your friends’ idea of “halal fun” is justifying gossip under “it’s for awareness,” you might need a new squad.
The Prophet ﷺ said:
“A person is upon the religion of his close friend.” (Tirmidhi)
Surround yourself with sisters who remind you of Allah, not just the latest trends.
8. Perfect Your Salah (Because “Quick Rakat Syndrome” is Real)
If your Salah speed is faster than your WiFi, we need to talk. Salah isn’t a TikTok challenge; it’s your lifeline.
Allah says:
“Indeed, prayer prohibits immorality and wrongdoing.” (Quran 29:45)
Slow down. Breathe. Feel the sujood. Because one day, your forehead won’t touch this earth anymore.
9. Give Sadaqah (Even If You’re Broke)
Think charity is only for rich aunties? Nope. Even a smile is charity. Even sharing Islamic knowledge is sadaqah.
The Prophet ﷺ said:
“The best of you are those who feed others and return greetings of salam.” (Ahmad)
Want an easy way? Donate monthly to a reliable Islamic charity. (Bonus: Barakah in your future marriage? Yes, please!)
10. Talk to Allah More Than You Text That Guy
Look, I’m not saying haram texting culture is a thing, but…okay, it totally is. If you’re pouring your heart out to a guy who still takes 8 hours to reply, maybe it’s time to redirect that energy to Allah.
Allah says:
“Call upon Me; I will respond to you.” (Quran 40:60)
Sis, He’s always online. And He actually listens.
The Takeaway: Your Iman is Your True Glow-Up
Marriage isn’t just about finding “the one.” It’s about becoming the one, someone who radiates faith, kindness, and spiritual strength.
So, tell me, which of these 10 steps are you committing to today? Let’s chat in the comments! Or, if you’re looking for the perfect Islamic pre-marriage book,