Ladies, let’s be real. We’ve all come across that guy who seems great at first, but then, BAM!, red flags start popping up like unwanted WhatsApp notifications. And yet, somehow, we ignore them.
But here’s the kicker: Islam already warned us about these toxic men! Yep, 1400 years ago, divine wisdom gave us the playbook, but we’re out here pretending we didn’t get the memo. So, if you’re still making excuses for a walking red flag, sis, buckle up. It’s time to face the truth.
1. The Sweet Talker Who Lies, A Modern-Day Pharaoh?
You know the type. He says all the right things but somehow, things never add up. He promises the moon but can’t even commit to a text back. Newsflash: the Prophet Muhammad (SAW) said, “When a person lies, their faith is weakened until they abandon lying altogether” (Ibn Majah).
If he’s lying about small things now, what about the big things later? Islam teaches us that honesty is the foundation of a righteous man. So, if he’s got more excuses than accountability, sis, run.
2. The “Half-Deen, Full Drama” Guy
Ah, the brother who prays Jummah but treats women like an afterthought. He’ll throw an “Astaghfirullah” at you for wearing nail polish but conveniently forgets the part where the Prophet (SAW) said, “The best of you are those who are best to their women” (Tirmidhi).
If he flexes his deen but lacks basic kindness, sis, he’s just weaponizing Islam to control you. And that’s not what a righteous man does.
3. The “InshaAllah, I’ll Change” Delusion
If he keeps promising to “get better” but his toxic habits are more stubborn than your eyeliner, Houston, we have a problem.
Islam teaches that actions speak louder than words: “Indeed, Allah will not change the condition of a people until they change what is in themselves” (Qur’an 13:11).
If he’s been “working on himself” for five years with no progress, you’re not his soulmate, sis, you’re his safety net.
4. The “I’m Just Not Ready for Commitment” Guy
But he’s ready for emotional support, deep conversations, and all the perks of a relationship without the responsibility?
The Prophet (SAW) didn’t play games when it came to commitment. In fact, he encouraged marriage as a means of protecting our faith and dignity. If a man claims he loves you but isn’t serious about nikah, he’s just stalling while keeping his options open. Don’t be an option.
5. The “Controlling in the Name of Islam” Guy
He tells you what to wear, who to talk to, and even tries to guilt-trip you using hadiths out of context? Major .
Yes, modesty and respect are important in Islam, but so is free will. Even Allah gave humans the ability to choose their path. The Prophet (SAW) never forced his wives to do anything, they followed him because of his character, not his control. If he’s more focused on policing you than protecting you, it’s not Islam, it’s insecurity.
6. The “Silent Treatment is Sunnah” Guy
Some men think ignoring you is a power move, but let’s get one thing straight: emotional manipulation is not Sunnah. The Prophet (SAW) never ghosted his wives or used silence as punishment. In fact, he addressed issues with love, patience, and communication.
So if he disappears every time there’s a disagreement, only to reappear when he feels like it, sis, he’s just emotionally immature. And ain’t nobody got time for that.
Final Thoughts: A Good Man Follows the Sunnah, Not His Ego
The best men are those who mirror the character of the Prophet (SAW), honest, kind, responsible, and respectful. If a man keeps making you question your worth, remember: Allah never intended for you to settle for less.
So, next time a guy starts showing these signs, don’t ignore them, act accordingly. Your iman deserves better. Your future deserves better. And most importantly? You deserve better.