Hey, sister! So, there’s this guy, huh? The one you can’t stop thinking about while making tea, reading, or even trying to perfect your eyeliner (which, let’s face it, takes intense focus and zero distractions). But here’s the thing, are you genuinely in love, or is it just another case of “Oh my gosh, he’s so cute, I can’t even!”?
Let’s break it down the halal way, shall we? Because Islam has all the answers you need to separate real love from that glittery infatuation. So, buckle up, because we’re about to dive into the ultimate love test!
1. Infatuation Is Like a Sugar Rush, Love Is Like Honey.
Ever eaten way too much candy? That’s what infatuation feels like. It’s sweet, exciting, and you’re all hyper. But then? Crash! You feel empty and drained. Infatuation is all about the thrills and chills. It’s that “OMG, his smile is the cure to world peace!” kinda phase.
But true love? It’s like honey, pure, nourishing, and lasting. The sweetness lingers without making you feel sick. It’s deeper than just attraction. Allah (SWT) mentions love and tranquility between spouses in the Quran:
“And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquility in them; and He placed between you affection and mercy. Indeed, in that are signs for a people who give thought.” (Quran 30:21)
True love is built on kindness, compassion, and mercy, things infatuation usually forgets about.
2. Are You Really Thinking About Him… or Just the Idea of Him?
Be honest, sis. Are you obsessing over him or just the idea of having someone to text “Good morning ” and “Goodnight “? Infatuation is often based on fantasy, while real love sees the person for who they truly are.
The Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) said:
“When a man marries, he has fulfilled half of the religion; so let him fear Allah regarding the remaining half.” (Al-Tirmidhi)
Marriage is no joke. It’s about growing spiritually together, not just having someone to gush over during girls’ night.
3. Are You Willing to Accept His Flaws?
Infatuation = Perfection Filter. You see him as flawless. The hair, the smile, the way he says “Salam” with that deep voice. But true love? It sees the flaws and accepts them. You acknowledge his imperfections, his struggles, and yet you still choose him.
The Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) was the epitome of kindness and love. He said:
“The best of you are those who are best to their wives.” (Al-Tirmidhi)
True love is about respecting, caring, and nurturing despite the imperfections.
4. Is Your Heart at Peace or Constantly Anxious?
If your heart’s doing cartwheels every time you think of him, and not in a cute way but in a nervous, “Oh no, what if he doesn’t text back?” kind of way, then it’s probably infatuation.
True love brings peace, not panic. It brings you closer to Allah (SWT), not further away. It motivates you to be a better Muslim, not just a better girlfriend.
5. Is It All About Looks and Perfection?
If your connection is purely based on how handsome he is or how great his voice sounds during Tajweed recitation, then sorry, girl, that’s a crush. Real love dives deeper. It’s about his character, his deen, his kindness, his sincerity.
The Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) said:
“A woman may be married for four reasons: her wealth, her lineage, her beauty, and her religion. So choose the religious one, you will be successful.” (Al-Bukhari & Muslim)
6. Does It Make You a Better Muslim?
Here’s the ultimate litmus test. Is your “relationship” inspiring you to be closer to Allah (SWT)? If it’s true love, then the answer should be yes. Because real love is built on the foundation of faith, not just feelings.
So, What’s the Verdict?
If it’s true love, it will inspire you to be the best version of yourself, to strive for Jannah hand in hand. But if it’s just infatuation, it will feel like a roller-coaster, fun but ultimately empty.
Ready to figure out what you’re feeling? Remember, the best love story is the one that leads you to Allah (SWT).
Let me know your thoughts in the comments below! Was this helpful? And most importantly, are you feeling that honey-like love or just the sugar rush?