Ladies, let’s talk M-A-R-R-I-A-G-E! You’ve seen your friends getting married, scrolling through those “Couple Goals” reels, and now you’re wondering: Am I ready? Or is it just FOMO playing tricks on your heart?
Don’t worry! Islam has some clear signs that tell you whether you’re truly prepared for this life-changing journey, or if you just need to calm down and focus on your du’as for now. Let’s dive in!
1. You Understand Marriage Isn’t a Netflix Rom-Com
If you think marriage is all about candlelit dinners and aesthetic matching outfits, girl, sit down! Marriage in Islam is a commitment, a test, and yes, a source of immense love (Quran 30:21). But it’s also about sabr (patience) when he forgets your chai order and rahmah (mercy) when you’re hangry and snappy.
So, are you prepared for the sweet moments AND the trials? Or are you still in the “princess phase”?
2. You Can Handle Conflict Without Turning Into a Drama Queen
Marriage means disagreements WILL happen. The Prophet ﷺ said, “The best of you are those who are best to their wives” (Tirmidhi). But sis, let’s be real, are you also the best to your husband?
If your first instinct is ghosting, sulking, or starting a WhatsApp war instead of handling issues with maturity and patience, maybe it’s time to level up your emotional intelligence first.
3. You’re Financially Aware (Yes, Even If He’s the Provider!)
Yes, Islamically, the husband provides. But being financially clueless is NOT cute. Do you know how to budget? Are you prepared for adulting, things like handling bills, meal planning, and not spending all your money on Sephora sales?
Marriage is teamwork. Money fights are real! Get smart about finances now so you don’t end up crying over a broken budget later.
4. You Can Cook More Than Instant Noodles
Calm down, before you scream “Women aren’t maids!”, hear me out. Cooking isn’t about gender roles, it’s about basic survival. The Prophet ﷺ himself helped in the house (Bukhari).
Imagine your husband works late, you’re both starving, and all you can do is call Uber Eats. Yikes. Having some cooking skills isn’t just practical, it’s an act of love. Bonus? It saves money!
5. You Choose Deen Over Dunya
Marriage is half your deen. But is your other half solid? If you’re struggling with your salah, hijab, or lowering your gaze, thinking a husband will “fix” your spirituality is a delusion, sis.
The Prophet ﷺ advised choosing a spouse for deen over looks and status (Bukhari). Are YOU that person? If not, work on it now!
6. You Know What You Actually Want in a Husband
Do you have a REALISTIC checklist? Or is it just:
- Hafiz of Quran
- 6’2” and drives a Tesla
- Never argues and is always romantic
Islam tells us to look for piety and good character (Tirmidhi). Everything else? Negotiable. Be clear on what truly matters, or you might reject a great guy over silly expectations.
7. You’re Ready to GIVE, Not Just RECEIVE
Many sisters dream of marriage like it’s a VIP princess package, guy showers you with gifts, takes you on vacations, and praises you non-stop. But marriage is about giving, not just receiving.
The Prophet ﷺ and Khadijah (RA) had a beautiful balance, she supported him emotionally and financially. Are you prepared to be your husband’s safe space? To uplift him when he’s down? If yes, that’s a green flag!
So… Are You Ready?
If you nodded YES to most of these, congratulations! You’re on the right track. If not, no stress, marriage isn’t a race! Work on yourself, build your character, and trust in Allah’s timing.