Alright, sis. Let’s be real for a sec. You told yourself you’d keep it halal. No late-night calls, no heart emojis, no “I miss you” texts. But here you are, feeling like you’ve just binge-watched a haram Netflix series starring… you and him. Guilt creeping in? Good. That means your heart’s still alive! Now, let’s talk about how to fix this, Islamic style.
1. Stop the Sin. Like, Now.
Listen, we can’t sugarcoat this. If you’re serious about repenting, the first step is to slam the brakes. Allah (SWT) says: “And do not approach unlawful sexual intercourse. Indeed, it is an outrage and an evil way” (Quran 17:32). Even if it didn’t go that far, cut off what led to it. Unfollow, block, delete, whatever it takes.
2. Sincerely Regret It (No, Not Just Because You Got Caught)
Real tawbah (repentance) comes from a heart that’s truly remorseful. The Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) said: “Regret is repentance” (Ibn Majah). So, no “But he was different!” or “We were gonna marry anyway.” Nope. Regret it for the right reasons.
3. Seek Forgiveness From Allah (And Mean It!)
Allah’s mercy is infinite, sis. He says: “Say, O My servants who have transgressed against themselves [by sinning], do not despair of the mercy of Allah. Indeed, Allah forgives all sins” (Quran 39:53). Make sincere dua. Cry if you have to. Ask Allah to wipe your slate clean.
4. Cut the Ties (Yes, Even If It Hurts)
I know, I know. You had dreams of matching wedding outfits and Islamic power couple goals. But if the relationship isn’t halal, it’s gotta go. Shaytan is waiting for you to “just check in” or “see how he’s doing.” Don’t fall for it!
5. Replace the Haram with Halal
Emptiness is dangerous. If you cut off a haram relationship but don’t replace it with something better, you’ll fall right back into old habits. Fill that void with acts of worship, meaningful friendships, and, if marriage is on your mind, do it the right way!
6. Keep Your Circle Halal
If your friends are constantly pushing you towards haram situations (“Just text him back, what’s the harm?”), it’s time for a friend audit. The Prophet (PBUH) said: “A person follows the religion of his close friend; so each of you should consider whom he takes as a close friend” (Abu Dawood, Tirmidhi). Surround yourself with people who remind you of Allah.
7. Trust That Allah Will Replace It With Something Better
Maybe you feel like you’ve lost something big, but sis, Allah’s got something better lined up for you. He promises: “Whoever fears Allah, He will make for him a way out and will provide for him from where he does not expect” (Quran 65:2-3). When you let go of the haram, you make space for divine blessings. And trust me, they’re worth it.
Final Thoughts
Look, no one is perfect. We all slip. But the real win is getting back up and turning back to Allah. Don’t let guilt keep you stuck, use it as fuel to change for the better. You’ve got this, in shaa Allah!
Now, go make that dua, and remember: Allah’s mercy is always greater than your mistakes.