Hey, sis! Are you feeling like your husband treats you like part of the furniture, just there, existing, but never truly noticed? If you’ve ever thought, “Why can’t he just appreciate everything I do?” then keep reading because, girl, you’re not alone. And thankfully, Islam has the perfect guidebook for everything, including how to be the absolute queen you are!
Let’s get right into it with these six Sunnah-inspired tips to make sure your husband can’t help but see your worth. Because, trust me, when you follow the Sunnah, you shine like gold!
1. The Power of Kind Words (Even When You Want to Scream)
Okay, okay, I know what you’re thinking. “Be kind when he leaves his socks on the floor again? Really?” Yes, really! The Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) said, “The best of you are those who are best to their wives.” (Tirmidhi). So, the next time you want to yell, try some gentle words instead. Being sweet doesn’t mean you’re weak, it means you’re strategic. And guess what? Men respond to kindness like bees to honey.
2. Showing Gratitude (Even When You Feel Like You’re Doing Everything)
I know, sis, it feels like you’re the one holding the whole house together. But showing gratitude even for the little things he does can be game-changing. The Prophet (ﷺ) said, “He who does not thank people has not thanked Allah.” (Abu Dawud). So, when he finally decides to take out the trash (after 15 reminders), say, “JazakAllah Khair.” You’d be surprised how this little act of appreciation can make him step up his game.
3. Beautify Yourself (Yes, It’s Sunnah!)
Listen, sis, Islam is all about beauty. It’s not just about looking good; it’s about feeling good. The Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) used to love wearing perfume and looking his best for his wives. So, put in that little extra effort, not for him, but for YOU. Wear that favorite outfit, apply that perfume he loves, and watch him realize that he’s been taking a queen for granted.
4. Making Dua (The Ultimate Secret Weapon)
If you’re not making dua for your marriage, you’re missing out on the most powerful tool ever. Seriously. Complain to Allah before you complain to your husband. After all, He’s the One who can change hearts. The Prophet (ﷺ) taught us to make dua for blessings in our marriages. So, when things get tough, turn to your Creator and watch miracles unfold.
5. Respect and Trust (Even When He Doesn’t Deserve It)
Here’s a tough pill to swallow: Respect is huge for men. Sometimes, he might not be acting in a way that earns your respect, but offering him respect can actually inspire him to be a better man. The Quran says, “And live with them in kindness.” (Surah An-Nisa, 4:19). Being respectful doesn’t mean letting him walk all over you. It means building an environment where love can grow.
6. Communication, But Make It Sunnah Style
You know how we love to drop hints like we’re in a K-drama? Yeah, let’s not do that. Instead, use clear, loving communication. The Prophet (ﷺ) was always gentle and clear when speaking to his wives. Express your feelings without blame or anger, and you might be shocked at how well he responds.
Final Thoughts
Listen, sis, marriage is a journey, not a destination. And it’s not about turning into some kind of Stepford Wife. It’s about using the wisdom of Islam to enhance your life and your marriage. The more you implement these Sunnah-inspired tips, the more you’ll feel valued, not just by him but by Allah. And that, my friend, is true success.
Ready to become the wife he can’t stop appreciating? Let’s do this! And hey, if you found this helpful, share it with your friends because every queen deserves to be valued.