Hey, sis! So, you married the love of your life, expecting Bollywood-level romance, daily “I love yous,” and those dreamy long stares. But instead, you get… “Pass the salt.” Or worse, complete silence while he’s glued to his phone like it’s revealing the secrets of the universe. Relatable much?
Before you start planning his accidental ‘misplacement’ of the Wi-Fi router, let’s hit pause. Emotional distance in marriage is real, but guess what? Islam has some mind-blowing tips to bridge that gap. Buckle up, girl. We’re diving right in.
1. Communication, The Halal Way
“And We created you in pairs.” (Quran 78:8) – The Almighty didn’t pair you up just to exist in silence, did He? Initiate conversations. And no, “Where’s the remote?” doesn’t count. Gently ask him about his day, his dreams, his worries. Show him you care about what’s on his mind and in his heart.
2. Pray Together, Stay Together
Imagine this: You and him, side by side, praying for each other’s happiness. Beautiful, right? The Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) said, “When a husband and wife look at each other with love, Allah looks at them with mercy.” (Sahih Bukhari)
Praying together strengthens your bond not just with each other, but with Allah (SWT). Make it a daily habit. Even if you’re praying separately, pray for him. Dua is your secret weapon, girl.
3. Express Gratitude, Even for the Little Things
“If you are grateful, I will surely increase you [in favor].” (Quran 14:7)
Did he remember to bring milk from the store for once? Celebrate it like he just won a Nobel Prize. Men thrive on appreciation. Expressing gratitude can melt even the most stone-hearted husband. Okay, maybe not stone-hearted, but you get the point.
4. Physical Affection Matters, Too
Yes, girl, we’re going there. Holding hands, hugs, and all that mushy stuff? It’s Sunnah! The Prophet (PBUH) showed affection to his wives openly. Aisha (RA) reported that the Prophet would kiss her before leaving for prayers (Sunan Abu Dawood). It’s not cheesy, it’s actually kind of cute.
5. Avoid Nagging Like the Plague
I know, I know. It’s hard when he’s refusing to pick his socks off the floor for the 87th time. But patience is your friend. The Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) advised, “The best of you are those who are best to their wives.” (Tirmidhi)
Nagging only pushes him away. Instead, try gentle reminders or even humor. “So, are those socks a new piece of home decor? Just curious.”
6. Make Time for Fun and Laughter
Islam encourages joy and companionship in marriage. The Prophet (PBUH) used to race with Aisha (RA) and joked with her. When’s the last time you and your hubby did something fun together? Schedule a date night. Play a silly game. Bring back the laughs.
7. Trust in Allah and Practice Patience
Marriage is a test, and no test is without challenges. Allah (SWT) says, “And We will surely test you with something of fear and hunger and a loss of wealth and lives and fruits, but give good tidings to the patient.” (Quran 2:155)
Patience doesn’t mean tolerating emotional neglect forever, but it means trying your best, trusting in Allah’s plan, and seeking His guidance throughout.
Final Thoughts
Listen, sis. Marriage is a journey with its highs and lows. But with sincere effort, communication, and reliance on Allah (SWT), you can absolutely bring him closer. And if all else fails, there’s always the classic “accidentally” hiding the Wi-Fi router. Kidding! (Mostly.)
Remember, you’re not alone in this. And with Allah’s guidance, nothing is impossible. Now go show your hubby what a loving, caring, amazing wife you are. And maybe sneak this post onto his phone.