Ladies, let’s get real. If you’ve ever been treated like a “maybe,” a “backup plan,” or, Allah forbid, a “talking stage” that never graduates to anything real, this one’s for you. You were not created to be someone’s last-minute convenience or an emotional pit stop. The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) taught us that women are precious, not placeholders. So, how do you reclaim your dignity and self-worth when the world keeps trying to discount you? Simple: by following the Sunnah. Let’s dive in.
1. Upgrade Your Self-Respect (Because Even Jannah Has Standards)
You wouldn’t let just anyone waltz into Jannah without the right deeds, so why let just anyone waltz into your life without the right intentions? The Prophet (pbuh) said, “When someone whose religion and character you are pleased with comes to you (for marriage), then marry them” (Tirmidhi). Notice he didn’t say, “When someone ghosts you for three weeks and comes back with a ‘Hey stranger’ text, entertain them.” Have standards. Stick to them.
2. Stop Over-Giving (You’re Not a Charity, Sis)
We love kindness, but there’s a difference between giving and being taken for granted. Even Khadijah (RA), the greatest supporter of the Prophet (pbuh), was cherished, valued, and never made to prove her worth. Allah Himself says, “Indeed, Allah does not like transgressors” (Quran 2:190). Over-extending yourself for someone who doesn’t reciprocate? That’s emotional transgression, my dear. Set boundaries.
3. Seek Validation from Allah, Not People (Likes Don’t Equal Love)
We live in an age where social media makes it easy to think our worth is tied to how many fire emojis we get under our selfies. But let’s take a step back: “And sufficient is Allah as an Accountant” (Quran 4:6). If you’re good with Allah, you’re already winning. Stop chasing people who barely deserve a follow-back.
4. Prioritize Purpose Over People (Your Destiny is Bigger Than His Mixed Signals)
Allah created you for a reason far greater than waiting on someone’s half-hearted texts. Aisha (RA) wasn’t sitting around waiting to be chosen, she was leading armies and narrating hadiths! The Prophet (pbuh) said, “The best of you are those who are best to their women” (Tirmidhi). If a man doesn’t see your worth, maybe he’s not the “best of you.” Keep it moving.
5. Know Your Worth in the Eyes of Allah (Spoiler: It’s Priceless)
The Prophet (pbuh) said, “The whole world is provision, and the best provision of this world is a righteous woman” (Muslim). Sis, do you hear that? You are the best part of this dunya. Stop acting like a side dish when Islam has already crowned you the main course.
6. Make Du’a for Better, Then Walk Like You Deserve It
Allah doesn’t close one door without opening a better one. But are you standing at a locked door, knocking until your knuckles bleed, instead of turning around and walking towards the blessings meant for you? The Prophet (pbuh) taught us the power of du’a: “Call upon Me; I will respond to you” (Quran 40:60). So make du’a, ask Allah for the best, and then act like someone who knows they’re worthy of it.
Final Thoughts: Reclaim Your Crown
Being an “option” is not in your divine script. You were made to be valued, loved, and respected, not to be someone’s plan B. Walk away from anything that makes you forget your worth, and step into the dignity that Islam has already assigned to you.
Now go forth, queen. Your worth is Sunnah-approved.