Let’s be real: friendships can either elevate you to queen status or drag you into the most unnecessary drama of your life. And guess what? Islam already gave us the blueprint on how to choose the right people. So if you’ve ever found yourself stuck with a so-called “friend” who treats you like an emotional punching bag, this one’s for you!
Here’s why Islam encourages you to be picky AF with your friendships, and how it can literally save your deen, your sanity, and your energy.
1. Your Friends = Your Future (Yes, Really!)
Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) wasn’t playing when he said:
“A person is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends.” (Abu Dawood)
Your friendships shape you, whether you realize it or not. Hang out with people who are always gossiping, complaining, or dragging you into nonsense? You’ll absorb that energy. Surround yourself with women who uplift you, remind you to pray, and help you grow? Watch your iman skyrocket!
Sis, Quick Check:
- Do your friends make you feel closer to Allah or pull you away?
- Do they encourage you to be your best self, or lowkey enjoy your failures?
- Are they the kind of people you’d want next to you on Judgment Day? (Scary thought, right?)
2. Bad Company = Emotional (and Spiritual) Damage
Raise your hand if you’ve ever had a friend who:
- Spills your secrets like a Netflix drama
- Brings out your worst habits (goodbye salah, hello gossip)
- Gets jealous instead of hyping you up
If your hand is up, it’s time for a serious friendship audit. The Quran straight-up warns us:
“And the Day the wrongdoer will bite on his hands [in regret] he will say, ‘Oh, I wish I had taken with the Messenger a way. Oh, woe to me! I wish I had not taken that one as a friend.’” (Quran 25:27-28)
Oof. Imagine regretting your squad on Judgment Day. Protect your heart, sis. Not everyone deserves access to you.
3. Good Friends Bring Barakah Into Your Life
Friendships in Islam aren’t just about vibes, they’re about barakah. The Prophet (ﷺ) said:
“The best of companions in the sight of Allah is the one who is best to his companion.” (Tirmidhi)
A good friend will:
- Check up on you when life gets tough
- Remind you to read Quran and pray on time
- Hype up your hijab game instead of questioning it
- Make dua for you behind your back (the ultimate love language!)
These are the real MVPs. If you’ve got even one of these gems in your life, hold onto her like she’s gold-plated.
4. Your Worth is Too High for Low-Quality Friendships
Repeat after me: “I am a Muslim woman. I am a queen. I do NOT entertain nonsense.”
Islam puts women on a pedestal, and your friendships should reflect that. If someone is constantly draining your energy, feeding you negativity, or making you question your values, it’s time to cut the cord.
Feeling guilty? Don’t. Protecting your mental, emotional, and spiritual well-being is self-respect, not selfishness.
5. Upgrade Your Circle, Upgrade Your Life!
So, what now? If you’re realizing that your current friend group isn’t serving you, it’s time to make space for better people. And don’t worry, Allah will replace the toxic with the pure if you make the effort.
Need help finding like-minded sisters? Check out XYZ Muslim Sisterhood Journal – a guided planner that helps you build meaningful, faith-centered friendships. It’s packed with duas, reflection prompts, and tips to strengthen your sisterhood in Islam!