Okay, sis, let’s talk. You’re in love, but why does it feel like you’re starring in your own personal horror movie? One minute he’s your knight in shining armor, the next he’s ghosting you like last week’s leftovers. Sound familiar?
Islam is ALL about love, pure, beautiful, halal love. But it’s NOT about suffering in silence over some guy who treats you like an option when you made him a priority. So, why does Islam say you should walk away from a love that hurts? Buckle up, this is about to get real.
1. Love in Islam = Peace, Not Pain
You know what the Quran says about love? “And He placed between you affection and mercy.” (Quran 30:21).
Sis, do you see the words heartbreak, humiliation, or ghosting anywhere in that verse? No, because Allah’s definition of love is sakinah, peace and tranquility. If your relationship feels more like an emotional warzone, that’s your cue: RUN.
2. Your Worth > His Excuses
“But he’s just going through a hard time…”
“He loves me, he just doesn’t show it…”
Girl, stop. Would you say this if your bestie came crying to you about a guy treating her like trash? NO! So why are you making excuses for him? The Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) said:
“A believer does not humiliate his wife.” (Ibn Majah 1987)
And guess what? That applies to any woman. If he’s making you feel like you’re not good enough, he’s already violating the sunnah.
3. Love Shouldn’t Feel Like a Test from Jahannam
Yes, tests are a part of life. But sis, there’s a difference between a test from Allah and a toxic situation you’re voluntarily signing up for every day.
“Allah does not burden a soul beyond that it can bear…” (Quran 2:286)
So why are you burdening yourself with a man who wouldn’t even carry your grocery bags? Islam teaches that love should uplift you, not make you cry yourself to sleep every night.
4. Dua is Not a Spell to Fix a Toxic Man
You can make dua for anything, but sis… not for a walking red flag to suddenly turn green. The Prophet (ﷺ) said:
“When a man comes to you with good character and religion, marry him.” (Tirmidhi 1084)
Notice how “good character” came before his bank account, his smooth-talking skills, or his “potential”? If his character is trash, no amount of Istikhara is going to fix that.
5. Walking Away = Self-Respect, Not Failure
Leaving doesn’t mean you failed. It means you won, because you chose yourself over someone who clearly wasn’t choosing you. And guess what? When you walk away from something harmful, Allah replaces it with something better.
“It may be that you dislike a thing and Allah brings through it a great deal of good.” (Quran 4:19)
So, what’s next? A man who actually values you, InshaAllah. But first, you need to clear out the toxic energy to make space for your blessings.
Ready to Heal? Let’s Talk Self-Love!
If you’re struggling to actually walk away and heal, let me introduce you to The Self-Love Journal for Muslim Women. It’s a guided journal packed with Islamic affirmations, du’as, and reflections to help you rediscover your worth and rebuild your confidence, WITHOUT texting him “one last time.”
Because, sis, you deserve better. And deep down, you already know it.
Let’s Chat!
Have you ever walked away from a relationship that was hurting you? How did it change your life? Drop your story in the comments, I promise you’re not alone.
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