Ladies, let’s be real for a second. You’re scrolling through social media, and what do you see? Cute couples, ‘relationship goals,’ and friends talking about their latest ‘talking stage’ that (shocker) ended in disaster. Sound familiar?
But have you ever wondered why Islam tells us to stay far, FAR away from dating? No, it’s not to make life boring or to keep you single forever. It’s actually a major blessing in disguise. Let’s break it down, no fluff, just facts.
1. Dating = Emotional Rollercoaster You Didn’t Sign Up For
One day, he’s texting you good morning with heart emojis, and the next, he’s ghosting you for three business days (or forever). Dating is a modern-day emotional battlefield, leaving people drained, insecure, and questioning their self-worth.
Islamic Perspective: Islam promotes emotional protection. The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said, “The heart is like a vessel, once it is filled with something impure, it becomes difficult to purify it.” (Tirmidhi). Why give your heart away to someone who hasn’t even committed to you properly?
2. “Halal Until Proven Haram?”, Nope, That’s Not How It Works
Let’s be real: many young Muslims try to justify dating as long as it’s ‘halal.’ But let’s cut the sugarcoating: if there’s unnecessary interaction, flirting, or temptation, it’s a no-go.
Quranic Truth Bomb: “Do not even go near zina (fornication). Indeed, it is an abomination and an evil way.” (Quran 17:32).
Even if your intentions are pure, shaytan loves to play mind games. One ‘innocent’ text turns into late-night FaceTimes, which turn into secret meetups… and well, you know the rest.
3. Wasting Time on the Wrong Person = Delaying the Right One
Every second spent on Mr. Wrong is a second stolen from Mr. Right (the one Allah has written for you). While you’re out here dealing with heartbreak and trust issues, your actual spouse could be making dua for a wife just like you.
Solution? Focus on self-growth, deen, and trusting Allah’s timing. The right man will meet you at the right place: under Allah’s guidance, not in your DMs.
4. You Deserve Commitment, Not Confusion
Dating is a game of ‘let’s see where this goes’ while marriage in Islam is about ‘let’s build a life together.’ Big difference.
Islam honors women by making sure they are never strung along. A man who is serious about you will go to your wali (guardian), not your Instagram stories.
Hadith Check: The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “When someone whose religion and character you are pleased with proposes to you, marry him.” (Tirmidhi). Notice how there’s no mention of ‘talking stage’ or ‘situationships’?
So… What’s the Alternative?
Alright, so if dating is a disaster, what’s the better option? Nikah (marriage) done the right way.
- Talk to your parents or trusted elders. Let them know you’re ready and serious about marriage.
- Use halal matchmaking services like Half Our Deen or Salams App (because meeting someone in a halal way doesn’t mean waiting for a miracle).
- Make dua. The best love stories start with “Ya Allah, grant me a righteous spouse.”
- Work on yourself. Prepare to be the kind of person you want to attract. Want a man of deen? Strengthen your own faith first.
Final Thoughts, Your Heart is Worth More
Sis, your heart is too precious to be played with. Allah isn’t restricting you from dating to punish you, He’s protecting you from unnecessary heartbreak and guiding you toward a love that is real, pure, and lasting.