Imagine this: Your friend just got engaged. The ring? Stunning. The fiancé? A dream. You’re smiling on the outside, but inside, you’re wondering: Will I ever find someone like that? And then, the worst thought creeps in: Maybe I should just settle…
STOP RIGHT THERE.
Islamic teachings are here to tell you loud and clear: You are worth more than a mediocre love story! If you think settling is the answer, grab some chai, sis, because we’re about to set the record straight.
1. Allah Created You with Dignity, Why Accept Less?
You are a creation of Allah, honored and valued. The Quran literally says:
“We have certainly honored the children of Adam…” (Surah Al-Isra 17:70)
So why are you treating yourself like a clearance-sale item? Your worth isn’t up for negotiation. If a man isn’t bringing respect, kindness, and actual effort to the table, he is not the one. Period.
2. A Strong Man Will Support Your Deen, Not Diminish It
Look, sis, it’s not just about finding a guy who prays. It’s about finding a guy who reminds you to pray, to grow, and to thrive in your faith. The Prophet ﷺ said:
“A woman is married for four things: her wealth, her lineage, her beauty, and her religion. So, marry the religious woman, or you may be ruined.” (Bukhari & Muslim)
If he’s more interested in Netflix than nikkah, RUN.
3. Love is Not a Charity Project
Listen up, good-hearted queens! You are NOT his personal therapist, financial sponsor, or emotional babysitter. Islam teaches mutual love and effort:
“…They are clothing for you and you are clothing for them…” (Quran 2:187)
Your future husband should protect your heart, not be a burden on it. If you’re constantly fixing him instead of building a future with him, that’s not love, that’s unpaid labor.
4. Marriage is Sunnah, But So Is Having Standards
Some aunties love to guilt-trip you with, “Beta, marriage completes half your deen.” But guess what? Not at the cost of your happiness. The Prophet ﷺ set high standards for marriage:
“The best of you are those who are best to their wives.” (Tirmidhi)
Sis, if he treats the waiter better than he treats you, he is not the one.
5. Settling Now = Regretting Forever
Fast forward five years. You’re married to Mr. Mediocre. No spark, no effort, just a daily routine of disappointment. Meanwhile, you see other women thriving in love and you think: Why didn’t I wait for better?
Sis, heartbreak from waiting is temporary. The heartbreak from settling lasts a lifetime. Choose wisely.
Bonus: Want to Attract a High-Value, Deen-Focused Man?
It starts with self-worth. And let’s be real, when you love yourself, you glow differently! If you’re struggling with confidence or finding the right mindset for marriage, check out , a faith-based guide designed to help Muslim women find love without compromising their standards.